Community Chat

[pattypeep]

@Keeper of the koi   You are a total.............

 Thank you !!

[Greeneyedlady21]

Compliments are great, it does make you feel good to give them.

I think those of us who don't receive them well should try our best to do better with that and believe we deserve them. Because we do.

[ladyroxanne]

i'm always complimenting people.  it makes them feel good and that in turn makes me feel good.

my getting compliments , i also had a problem accepting them.  as time has gone on i finally realized that i was not gracious to the person who was giving me a compliment.  now i'm able to smile and say thank you.  it really is so easy.  i like getting compliments and they really make my day! 

[Greeneyedlady21]

@ladyroxanne That's a lovely post, there's a compliment for you

[ladyroxanne]

thank you @Greeneyedlady21.  really appreciate it!

i won't forget you.

[dex]

@chickenbutt I agree with you and I have a hard time accepting too but I do love to hand them out and mean it.My mom always gave a compliment followed by a zinger.She liked to tell me that I was beautiful but didn't have nice teeth so I should smile with my mouth shut.

[Poodlepet2]

I have learned to accept them graciously.  For example, if somebody said, "You look great in that outfit"in my self-deprecating way I would respond " Thank you!  I feel like a tub...."

In doing so, I was insulting their judgment by not accepting their kind words.

I do love giving compliments, but it's interesting how self-deprecating people can be.  I wonder why-myself included. Are we afraid of being perceived as thinking highly of ourselves?

Poodlepet2

[faeriemoon]

I enjoy giving and receiving compliments.

[Lovingq]

Compliments can sometimes be considered unkind.  A young man who works at the grocery store I've been going to for years (probably in his 20's} joined a gym and his formerly rotund body and face transformed into a chisled body and chisled facial features. Translation....this man was now smoking hot.  

I didn't recognize him, the difference was so profound.  When I found myself complimenting him I then realized that not everyone likes to be reminded that no one paid any attention when fat.  Hurtful then and hurtful now.  Another thing, was I objectifying him....something that women always protest that men do?  

[pattypeep]

@Greeneyedlady21  Repeat after me: