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[emmysmom]

On 2/24/2015 catwhisperer said:

On 2/24/2015 emmysmom said:

On 2/24/2015 catwhisperer said:

emmysmom ...thank you again. You and I must be around the same age. I went to high school in the 60's and lived through the hippy era and Woodstock when people were really into certain drugs. I never had any exposure to it at my high school, thank goodness, and was never approached by anyone to buy or use.

We have areas here in my area that are affluent and the students drive expensive cars and can buy anything and everything. Many end up drinking and drugging, then wrap their expensive cars around a tree. So very sad.

Yes, Cat! I graduated in 1969..my mom was a school nurse and she had many students that came from wealthy families.. They used to come back from lunch either drunk or drugged. She had one boy that had an expensive car and he died in a car accident, they didn't know if it was accidental or not..My mom got really involved with these kids! I used to say I wish she'd been at a high school when I was at that age! Maybe she would have more understanding, lol! She was a nurse in elementary when I was in HS. This happened in the 70's and early 80's. There's so much pressure today, I feel sorry for these kids. We grew up in an innocent age, these kids today know everything, its all out there on the internet!

LOL...we graduated in the same year. My, how times have changed.

I met a guy at the grocery store last week, and he graduated in 69. We ended up talking for a couple of hours. We knew the same people..its so much fun going down memory lane, it made my day!

[pistolino]

Hopefully he'll learn and get involved in a 12-step program while in jail or go through a drug court.

That said, I no longer am optimistic about addicts and their ability to recover, mostly because my brother has relapsed so many times and really just eliminated my desire to have any relationship with him.

He has stolen from everyone he's known, lied to everyone he's known and the last time he stole from me I just had to say "good luck to you" and shut the door in his face.

All you can do is hope they get it through their heads that they really are addicts and always need to be working on their recovery. But--you should always be prepared to sever any relationship unless they are clean.

[game-on]

I have read some really heartfelt posts to you.... I have nothing to add except that it sounds like his mom needs support and this may be a good time to bond. We never know who will need our caring and love. Even if we don't know all of the details.... we can say I care.... and be there with a listening ear. I wish you all the best.

[free-spirit]

Google Families Anonymous ... see if there are meetings in your area.

It has been a lifesaver for us.

In my opinion Al-Nanon and Nar-Anon teach you how to live with the addict. Families Anonymous (FA) teaches you how to change so hopefully your qualifier will change. Even if they do not change my life is much improved.

The biggest lesson I learned .... is the more you help the more you hurt your qualifier. Parenting an addict, regardless of age, is counter intuitive to parenting a "normal" child.

[Mom2Dogs]

free-spirit, thank you, I have never heard of that organization, I will pass the info along.

I understand...the more you help the more you hurt...I learned that while helping to raise my step children, they were never into drugs but there were certainly enough other issues growing up that I was involved in.