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[Noel7]

@Imadickens

Why bring up wearing sweats to a wedding?   No one said anything like that and yet several others are making silly comments as if that was really what it was about.  Why try to insult others who never said any such thing.

[Trinity11]

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@Noel7 wrote:

@Imadickens

No one was talking about wearing sweats to a wedding.  More that several of us did not feel we had to wear a fancy dress with pantyhose anymore.

It's 2016 not 1960. 

Comfortable dressy slacks, an upscale top and good jewelry is more my style.

But if you want to wear a cocktail dress, nylons and heels, I won't care.

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@Noel7One of my worst fashion faux pas memories is when we were invited to a St. Patrick's Day party in a nice hotel twenty years ago. I was told by the host it would be formal and I put a lot of time and effort in finding a dress, shoes and accessories. I walked in the door and much to my chagrin there was a sea of blue jeans and green sweat pants. I think I was probably the only woman in the room overdressed. My husband had on a really nice suit and I think we must have looked like two misinformed individuals. The host (a former friend) had a twinkle in her eye when we showed up. LOL

From then on, I learned always to be underdressed than overdressed.....

[Noel7]

Hi @Trinity11

That was mean 👎🏻

But I'll bet you looked fabulous! 😀

[Trinity11]

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@Noel7 wrote:

Hi @Trinity11

That was mean 👎🏻

But I'll bet you looked fabulous! 😀

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Thanks, Noel. I still remember the embarassment of the whole thing.

[Imadickens]

@Noel. I just read your post. I have never dressed for what people think of me. I find it, however, more a commentary on what one thinks about OTHERS that dictates dress. I feel if someone cares enough about me to invite me to a lovely party, the least I can do is dress appropriately! That "dress style" of course, has changed over the years. I don't find it too much to ask for guests to dress in their nicer clothing to go to a party (unless the invitation states casual attire is requested). I guess I look at it like this: if one can't tell that the guest made an effort to look nice, then I feel the guest did not dress appropriately! I knew a teacher who dressed nicely to teach. On Sunday's she would come to church in jeans and any old top. She said that because she dressed up all week she deserved a break. I, too, taught.  I felt that if I didn't dress up for God, who would I dress well for? Besides, I don't see how a nice pair of slacks and a blouse or sweater is any more trouble to wear than jeans and tees! So, I guess what I'm saying is, that I dress well out of respect for others! I don't do it because of what others think about me, it is my way of showing respect. But, this is just my opinion, but I try to adhere to it. 

[magicmoodz]

This thread is a great example of how women tend to get their knickers in knots trying to prove their point of view is, of course, RIGHT.  

That being said I respectfully disagree that jeans cannot look dressy.  Paired with a great pair of boots, designer handbag, a silk shirt or camel hair blazer and "good" jewelry, I personally can make an outfit comprised of jeans look dressy.  Jeans don't always mean Denim & Co and white tennies.  

[RazorSharp]

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@magicmoodz wrote:

This thread is a great example of how women tend to get their knickers in knots trying to prove their point of view is, of course, RIGHT.  

That being said I respectfully disagree that jeans cannot look dressy.  Paired with a great pair of boots, designer handbag, a silk shirt or camel hair blazer and "good" jewelry, I personally can make an outfit comprised of jeans look dressy.  Jeans don't always mean Denim & Co and white tennies.  

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@magicmoodz Yes, jeans can look very nice, but they would only be appropriate if the invitation says that the proper attire is Casual or Casual Dressy.  They are not appropriate if an invitation says that the attire should be Festive or Cocktail. 

[magicmoodz]

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@RazorSharp wrote:

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@magicmoodz wrote:

This thread is a great example of how women tend to get their knickers in knots trying to prove their point of view is, of course, RIGHT.  

That being said I respectfully disagree that jeans cannot look dressy.  Paired with a great pair of boots, designer handbag, a silk shirt or camel hair blazer and "good" jewelry, I personally can make an outfit comprised of jeans look dressy.  Jeans don't always mean Denim & Co and white tennies.  

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@magicmoodz Yes, jeans can look very nice, but they would only be appropriate if the invitation says that the proper attire is Casual or Casual Dressy.  They are not appropriate if an invitation says that the attire should be Festive or Cocktail. 

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@RazorSharp

I completely agree.  I just find it surprising so many feel jeans are inappropriate for a HOME festive holiday party, suggesting work attire (dress pants) are more appropriate.  Who wants to wear the same outfit to a party on Saturday night that they wore to work on Thursday?  😟

[Moonchilde]

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@Noel7 wrote:

@Imadickens

Why bring up wearing sweats to a wedding?   No one said anything like that and yet several others are making silly comments as if that was really what it was about.  Why try to insult others who never said any such thing.

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In a nutshell, not singling out any one poster, that's what's been happening in this thread for some time, and I said so.  And LOL, I've been told to knock it off expressing that thought. As if.

[RazorSharp]

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@magicmoodz wrote:

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@RazorSharp wrote:

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@magicmoodz wrote:

This thread is a great example of how women tend to get their knickers in knots trying to prove their point of view is, of course, RIGHT.  

That being said I respectfully disagree that jeans cannot look dressy.  Paired with a great pair of boots, designer handbag, a silk shirt or camel hair blazer and "good" jewelry, I personally can make an outfit comprised of jeans look dressy.  Jeans don't always mean Denim & Co and white tennies.  

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@magicmoodz Yes, jeans can look very nice, but they would only be appropriate if the invitation says that the proper attire is Casual or Casual Dressy.  They are not appropriate if an invitation says that the attire should be Festive or Cocktail. 

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@RazorSharp

I completely agree.  I just find it surprising so many feel jeans are inappropriate for a HOME festive holiday party, suggesting work attire (dress pants) are more appropriate.  Who wants to wear the same outfit to a party on Saturday night that they wore to work on Thursday?  😟

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@magicmoodz Well, technically, jeans would not be appropriate for a home festive holiday party if the invitation says "Festive Attire."  "Festive" attire is basically the same as "Cocktail" attire with a holiday influence in colors or patterns.  I'd have to dig out my etiquette book, but I'm pretty sure jeans are only appropriate for the designations of  "Casual" or "Casual Dressy."