Re: Biggest Mistake In Life

Lynnabby · ‎07-16-2020

Chewing ice and cracking my teeth when I was a teenager. Now I have implants.

jubilant · ‎06-10-2010

I don't know that it was a mistake but I have often wished I had asked more questions of my great-grandparents, grandparents, and parents.

AngelPuppy1 · ‎03-13-2010

@patbz wrote:
I've made many life changing mistakes but the one that comes to mind was turning done a work transfer to Italy (the co worker who took it stayed nine years). I was, however, in Karlsruhe Germany, met my BFF, and subsequently ahe met her husband, as did I. So who knows?

@patbz

Speaking of mistakes -- and regrets --- my dear Mother was from Germany and she lived in Karlsruhe!! I regret and lament that I never went back there with her to visit her home land! My mother was a war bride and met my father when he came over to Gemany. So many things I wish I knew about them and now they are both gone!

"A day without sunshine is like, you know, night." - Steve Martin

chiclet · ‎03-19-2010

Getting married and having children too young.

drizzellla · ‎03-14-2010

Boy have I made some mistakes. And sadly there is no way to fix them.

My Mom was in the hospital, she was not doing well. The Doctor said she was not allowed any liquid. Not for brushing her teeth or with her meals. She didn't like it. I went to the hospital, I honestly thought she misunderstood the Doctor's orders.

She was right, the hospital refused to give my Mom any liquids. My talking to them was a waste of time.

She was released from the hospital and sent back to the nursing home. They followed the Doctor's orders. Mom wanted liquid to brush her teeth and with her meals.

The only way the nursing home would agree to giving her liquids, was if she was declared "incompetent". And I had to have her sign the forms. So there I am begging for her to sign. She wanted liquids but wasn't about to admit she was incompetent. Finally she signed.

Went back the next day. She was being given a bath. So I went to visit my Dad in the same nursing home. Went back to her room. The light was out and she was in bed for the night. I spoke but there was no reply. She was hard of hearing so not sure if she was asleep or not. I figured I would see her the next day.

Not to be. She passed away early the next morning. So the last talk I had with my Mom was begging her to sign forms saying she was incompetent.

At the same time Dad wasn't in good shape either. So I had to make all the arrangements for Mom's funeral by myself.

Several days later my brother's showed up and made a brief visit to my Dad in the nursing home. I wanted to go back as soon as visiting hours started the next day because he wasn't doing well. He passed away before my brother's got up.

They got upset I woke them up. They were staying at my house and I woke them at about 10AM, to say Dad passed away. He died 5 days after my Mom.

So I missed being with my Mom and Dad when they passed. In my mind they didn't deserve to pass away by themselves. I should have been there for them. And just left my brothers sleeping so I could at least visit Dad.

Marceil · ‎02-06-2018

My heart breaks for you. I worked 20 years in a nursing home. So many times family left the room or went to eat and their loved one died. Forgive yourself. I'm certain your parents have. ❤️

aj1980 · ‎12-05-2019

Not going to see my friend when he had hours left to live I was at the hospital earlier in the day with him. I received a call that night around 8 30 asking me did i want to come say goodbye. I just didnt wanna go watch someone take their last breath May sound cruel but I wanted my last memory to be when he was alive

hckynutjohn · ‎06-15-2015

@aj1980 wrote:
Not going to see my friend when he had hours left to live I was at the hospital earlier in the day with him. I received a call that night around 8 30 asking me did i want to come say goodbye. I just didnt wanna go watch someone take their last breath May sound cruel but I wanted my last memory to be when he was alive

@aj1980

I don't see it as a mistake. You made a choice, that you felt was the best for you, at that time. I can certainly understand why.

There was something a but similar with myself and a couple friends/co-workers. I worked with one, and he had stage 4 stomach cancer. I went to visit him at home, and asked another co-worker, if he wanted to go with me. He offered 2 excuses why he couldn't go, and I solved both those reasons, yet he still chose not to go.

This same living coworker a few weeks later said to me: "I didn't see you at Jim's funeral. My response was, No, I chose to see him when we could talk with each other".

Appreciate your response.

hckynut 🇺🇸