Are you ever envious of others? - Page 6

HiLo · ‎03-10-2010

@151949 wrote:
@Vickiv wrote:
Yes at times when I see an older couple together I wish it was my husband and myself. He passed away a few years ago and there is no growing old together.
I know many widows because I live in Florida and they all say this - that they thought they would have their husband to grow old with. I lost my first husband when I was 30 and he was 40. He was the love of my life, and I do miss him still even though it is 37 years ago and I did get married again. Of course - he remains forever young oin my memory. He will never age or be ill or weak or forgetful - all the things we see as we age. He will forever be young, sexy , strong etc etc.

I lost my husband when I was 37, he 39. Didn't marry again....no one else would do. But I do wish we could have had more years together. Oh, Yes, I forgot; envious of those who can eat what they want and never gain weight!

qualitygal · ‎10-04-2010

@IamMrsG wrote:
@hoosieroriginal wrote:
No, I consider myself the luckiest person in the world - I have my health, I can manage my money on my minimal income, I own my home, and I have the love of my dogs, Story and Sedona. I feel truly blessed every day. I live a very simple life, and the more simple it is, the more I love it. Having "things" in my life (expensive purses, fancy cars, etc.) mean nothing to me - they're "things". Things can't make you happy.

@hoosieroriginal You have something no amount of money can buy -- wisdom and grace.

I would add she also has peace of mind and self-esteem! Good job!

LilacTree · ‎03-25-2012

@hckynut wrote:
@LilacTree wrote:
Appearance, lifestyle, social prominence, wealth, etc?

hi @LilacTree,

with my great and happy life, what's to envy?

hckynut(john)

Hi John. When I was asked this question at my recent Medicare Wellness Check, I answered that I considered myself lucky. People that I love are gone now and I'm still here. So it's as you said. At our age, we have a lot to be thankful for. My worst sorrow is how much I miss my loved ones.

Formerly Ford1224
We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented. Elie Wiesel 1986

chickenbutt · ‎03-09-2010

Sometimes

hckynut · ‎03-10-2010

@LilacTree wrote:

So it's as you said. At our age, we have a lot to be thankful for. My worst sorrow is how much I miss my loved ones.

@hi again @LilacTree,
sorrow at losing loved ones happens to everyone if they live long lives. i lost my mother when i was 30 and my closest sister(23 months older than me) when i was 50. i always try to live the life they would have wanted for me, and i think both of them would approve of most of my choices.

my best wishes to you and your family and hope you are doing as well as possible dealing with your health issues.

FYI---I EDITED PART OF YOUR POST. I hope you don't mind.

hckynut(john)

hckynut(john)

Silver Lining · ‎04-16-2010

@KarenQVC wrote:
Not really. I think jealousy is sort of a gene I did not get.

Envy and jealousy are not the same thing.

GingerPeach · ‎03-12-2010

Not really. And those few times I think I might want what someone else has, it passes very quickly because I realize I don't want it, or the lifestyle, after all.

[was Homegirl] Love to be home . . . thus the screen name. Joined 2003.

LilacTree · ‎03-25-2012

@hckynut wrote:
@LilacTree wrote:

So it's as you said. At our age, we have a lot to be thankful for. My worst sorrow is how much I miss my loved ones.

@hi again @LilacTree,
sorrow at losing loved ones happens to everyone if they live long lives. i lost my mother when i was 30 and my closest sister(23 months older than me) when i was 50. i always try to live the life they would have wanted for me, and i think both of them would approve of most of my choices.

my best wishes to you and your family and hope you are doing as well as possible dealing with your health issues.

FYI---I EDITED PART OF YOUR POST. I hope you don't mind.

hckynut(john)

I lost my mom at age 49 when I was only 29. And I had lived in the VA suburbs for eight years prior to her death. I truly feel as though I was deprived of knowing my mom as an adult. I found out much later that my ex had requested the transfer to get me away from my family. He had lied to me that he was transferred by the company. I'll never forgive him for that even though he's gone now too (as of January of this year).

I did spend the last four months of her life with her until she passed. I took my 2-month old and my 16-month old with me and left my older "babies" of three and four and a half with my husband. A friend of ours took care of them during the day and he picked them up after work. It was a very difficult time.

My best to you as well. Sometimes a long life is not so much a blessing. Only when one is still healthy.

No, I don't mind at all that you edited my post. Ford

Formerly Ford1224
We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented. Elie Wiesel 1986

Noel7 · ‎03-09-2010

@hckynut wrote:

hi @LilacTree,

with my great and happy life, what's to envy?

hckynut(john)

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@hckynut

Well, John, in spite of your health problems you are a pretty content guy who loves his wife and she loves you, and you seem like a basically happy go lucky guy.

That's what's to envy for some people

Kalli · ‎03-11-2010

I'm not envious of material things. I do wish my mom was still herself mentally. I see other folks my age with elderly parents still able to enjoy being together and I wish I could have Mom back. But I had her for the most important formative years and until she was in her mid 70s so I try to count my blessings.

My dad's slipping mentally now, too. So hard to watch him struggle to keep Mom with him and try to be independent. He really can't take care of her anymore and now he's making mistakes and she's starting to wander. We've been lucky so far but this aging and dementia business is sure hard.