Re: Are there people you try to avoid?

Chicagoan · ‎03-09-2010

ikr, I like to surround myself with funny people who enjoys life and likes people. I come from a family that does a lot of laughing and my brothers literally should be comedians, when we all get together it is always a fun time and I go home knowing how lucky I am to have them in my life.

may good luck be your friend in whatever you do
and may trouble be always a stranger to you

NYC Susan · ‎03-13-2010

@Tinkrbl44 wrote:
What's wrong with a polite but firm "No thank you" and keep walking? If someone is extremely persistent, follow up with "Sorry, but I don't have time" and keep your feet moving. You don't need to stop and chat and they certainly don't want to waste their time on people who aren't interested.

Whether they are paid or volunteers, they have a goal and want to achieve it. Just keep moving and you'll have no problem .....

Yes, that's what I do. If I'm not interested in whatever they're pushing, I say, "Sorry, I'm not interested", and I move on. There's no need to engage in any kind of conversation or explain or make excuses. I'm not interested, so I say so - not in a nasty way, but in a firm tone. Most of the time I'm not even approached in the first place because I don't make eye contact. I act as though I have something else to do or somewhere else to be because that's the truth. In my mind, it's not open for discussion and my body language reflects that.

moon_gazer · ‎11-20-2016

@AussieLuvr wrote:
I try to avoid most of my husband's family, LOL.

They aren't awful people but they are not nice to me, and for no good reason. I have disengaged and it no longer bothers me as long as there is no contact.

They are passive aggressive and self-righteous. These are the kind of people I have ALWAYS avoided, and then VOILA!! I married into a whole family of them without knowing what they were really like, lol.

@AussieLuvr

I totally understand! That's why I posted what I did earlier.

Deep In The Heart of Texas

apple1964 · ‎08-07-2013

When I leave my office .. I just want to read my book or check my emails or watch a movie[ with my earbuds on] while commuting home anyway, I still find people on the bus want to talk when I am so tired I want to relax. And then I came up with a idea I found a old CD player and I decided to bring it with me, So I took it out of my purse while I was on the bus put the earbuds in my ears and settled in for the ride home, no such luck some people I know saw me and yelled my name and started to talk to me. To answer your question O/P I am trying to avoid the world!

corita · ‎08-20-2012

And I really do dislike being cornered by those "vendors' at stores.....I just tell them I am not interested and move on. Really hate when person sitting next to me on plane wants to gab... usually trying to sleep.

I am at a point in my life where I don't have to be around people I don't like....one of the perks of growing old and retired! While working, I was constantly "teamed" with people who would have never become chosen friends. Difficult personalities, selfish colleagues, poor workers, office gossips -- not people I enjoy. Now, I can choose people I want to share my time with and it is all good!

Ibby114 · ‎03-10-2010

@Chicagoan wrote:
Negative people... you know the kind that sees nothing positive in life! The ones that think everyone has it better then them. They believe life has not been fair to them and they don't really like anyone.

The ones that walk around with a dark cloud illuminating over their heads and after they get done talking to you they have drained every ounce of energy from your body!!!!

Yep, I avoid them!!!! lol

@Chicagoan I have a couple of friends like this- they don't get that thinking negative WILL bring that dark cloud around for real! After I get accused of my glass half full 'psycho babble' I change the subject....

tsavorite · ‎03-09-2010

@TenderMercies wrote:
Oh, yes. There’s a guy who always shows up to events related to where I work. If you end up getting cornered by him, he’ll talk your ear off for an hour, and it’s impossible to get away from him. He also has bad breath and is a close talker. I always turn and walk away whenever he’s in my line of vision.

My husband's Uncle....Oh my....I have gotten trapped with him! Even his wife will say "is he bothering you? he is always talking non stop bothering people!" it's so embarrassing but I try to avoid him quite abit now...the last time I was the one that got stuck with him at a wedding. I can't be rude and say "please....give it a rest" as he is related. He will wait for you if you go use the bathroom to "finish" his stories that go on and on forever...and he must tell you ever detail and everyone one of them to total completion even if others interrupt...he stalks you and picks it right up! Drives me nuts! But he is a nice man...and H and I do love him but we both can't take to much of him is all LOL!

Diva on The Q · ‎03-28-2016

People who wouldn't give you the time of day EXCEPT when they want to boast and brag about their accomplishments, expensive homes, vacations, cars, etc. And... not only that, as soon as you want to share some of your own good news, they want to change the subject back to themselves.

Ibby114 · ‎03-10-2010

@Diva on The Q wrote:

People who wouldn't give you the time of day EXCEPT when they want to boast and brag about their accomplishments, expensive homes, vacations, cars, etc. And... not only that, as soon as you want to share some of your own good news, they want to change the subject back to themselves.

@Diva on The Q and half their 'accomjplishments' are bs anyway !!