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[viva923]

i sure have people i don't like. 

I try to avoid them as much as I can.  If I do run into them, I try to be nice but don't go out of my way to carry on a long conversation.

[Greeneyedlady21]

Selfish people, narcissists, people who love to talk about themselves, sexist racist bigoted people. Judgemental people.

[ECBG]

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@cherry wrote:

I am OK @ECBG.  The young woman used to be our waitress, and she really does like us, i am quite sure. She always made it a point to chat with us, and my husband always tips very generously

I just think she is a zealot, she just graduated from college and so she is rather young, still. If she wants to keep friends ,she is going to have to learn to tone it down, a lot

Thank you for asking. BTW ,I love your new pooch

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@cherryGlad you're ok.  Smokey is afraid of the rain and here we are, of course in this storm.  One thing for sure, he can't wait forever.

I had an interesting situation happen today at a very up scale consignment I went to.  I took two pair of expensive shoes that were going to kikk me on the floor of the store and a 12 carat malachite pendane wrapped in sterling and 14K gold wire.  While I was speaking with the young owner (she was behind the desk, I was seated in front of it), a salesman came in and just took over interrupting what we were obviously.  He asked who was the store owner and she replied she was.  He began to speak over my head and asked her for a piece of clothing with a stain.  He was also beginning a conversation with the other associate.  The young owner got up, and got him a top, he sprayed it with something.  After a minute or two, she came back and sat at the desk to give me a photocopy of the consignment agreement.  He began talking and walking up behind me, clearly intending to speak over my head and interrup.  I turned around in my chair, looked him squarely in the eye and said "Excuse me." and smiled, not lifting my voice at all, but making sure he picked up on my meaning. 

I didn't want to embarras the young lady who apparently has not grown in the skill to handle a situation like this.

In the beginning she should have said "Hi!  I'm the owner, and I'll be right with you!".

[cherry]

That man was certainly rude @ECBG. I'm glad you stood your ground with him

[puttypiesmom]

During election time we always have petitions about different issues and while some are very important to me, I stopped putting my name on them a long time ago.  Just no longer felt comfortable doing so for a complete stranger.  In front of the post office you will see them and they will ask all to sign and if you say not interested, will respond instead of just leaving you alone.  I called the police on two such individuals as they were too aggressive and not taking no for an answer.  I could just picture them cornering one of them with their nonstop rap - hope that worked out for them. 

[Azcowgirl]

 Try to avoid the kiosk people! We were recently in Vegas, and in the shopping areas they are really in your face and aggressive sometimes 😧

[Luvtuna]

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@Annabellethecat66 wrote:

@cherry I've read many of your posts and know you are a sweet, kind person.

Here's my take on this.  Sometimes I realize it's easier to give advice than to take it, but here goes.

Just tell her (just speak for yourself for now) that you have no intention of getting involved in politics AT ALL.  

Look her straight in the eye when you say it.  Don't smile and sound very serious.

Think about it this way (this is going to sound terrible, but I really believe this).  Some people are so freaking hard-headed it takes a verbal voice as if you were speaking to a dog or cat to make them understand just how serious you really are about this or any other subject.

When one talks to a dog or cat (or even your child) if you are the least bit wishy washy way (humm??? is that a term in the dictionary) kids and animals pick up on it immediately!  As the mother of 3 girls (now adults) they know when Mom is serious and if they can make her give in.

My guess is this person senses some 'lilt' in your voice you aren't aware of (probably because you are a kind person who doesn't want to be rude) and they're taking advantage of you.

So, for goodness sakes, there's no need for you "YOU" to avoid this person.  Don't exert the energy.  You don't deserve to be agitated anymore by someone so inconsiderate.

Now, go ahead and the next time you see her.  Look her right in the eyes and say that to her.  Don't smile and mean it, mean every word of it.  I guarantee you, she won't bother you again about this.

So what if it hurts her feelings.  She's inconsiderate or she'd have been gracious to understand the words no interest meant just that.

Take care and thanks for sharing.  I enjoy corresponding with you here as you are a lovely and considerate person.  Have a wonderful day, I think you deserve a wonderful day.  Annabelle/Linda

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Thank you Annabellethecat. You helped me too. The letter sounds just like my problem with someone who is overly political. I’m just such a pushover. I have trouble leaving hearts, my iPad just takes me to another page. So hearts to you.

[suzyQ3]

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@JJsMom wrote:

I avoid people who talk about themselves all the time or about superficial things, and busy bodies.

I don't mind talking about politics assuming I agree with their cause. I appreciate those who want to change the world for the better. If I don't agree and they continue to harass me, then that's a problem. Also, don't try to convert me to your religion. I'm not that weak minded that I will suddenly change my mind about that.

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@JJsMom,  we remain sisters from different misters. :-)

[suzyQ3]

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@AuntG wrote:

Anyone I know when shopping. It's annoying when people stand in a store and talk. There's one person who calls and is a non-stop talker. Some days I dread saying hello, but if I'm home, I always answer the phone and talk to her.

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@AuntG, I have a couple people that I am always happy to run into while shopping. I hope we don't annoy our fellow shoppers. But if we do, oh, well. :-)

[YorkieonmyPillow]

  I can't think of anyone I avoid.

  If there are people selling things at the entrance to a store, I've used the standard, "I gave at the office."

  The fact that there is no office is immaterial.

   I do like the people I see at the store because there is usually a good assortment of cute, cuddly codgers.