Are You Driving? - Page 3

chickenbutt · ‎03-09-2010

For some of us, starting threads is not a positive experience. I'm honestly not trying to be negative. I'm just being honest.

If you're not either more popular or a trouble-maker, starting threads here is an exercise in frustration and futility. They will sink faster than a boulder.

The other thing that's profoundly frustrating here is that, in no time flat, another person (usually somebody more popular) will start the same exact thread and off it goes while yours just sinks.

The last few times I did this in tv and movies that is how it went and I swear I will never start another one. It's maddening when somebody can't even be bothered to see if that exact subject is already here, usually not far from the top at all, and they start the same exact thread. On normal boards multiple threads will be deleted. But here, it's not like that.

I don't wish anybody ill will because I have manners, but it's really frustrating and just not worth it.

Zhills · ‎11-15-2011

Some people thrive on leaving negative, opposing comments. Hopefully, they release their negative thoughts here and not to the people around them.

I remember asking, "Have you ever asked for help and been told NO?" Can't believe the replies I received.

One poster insisted that I tell what I asked for and who refused? Guess she felt she could justify it!

Really! Does it matter? I just asked a question!!

Doesn't make for a pleasant day!

sunshine45 · ‎03-09-2010

@Desert Lily

i think that the thoughts behind and the intent of your thread have a good purpose. lets hope that those that lurk and read take a chance and respond here or begin a new thread.

i like to think that the vast majority of us who are active here are also very welcoming!

happy new year to our silent friends and to those of us who are active here and keep this place a fun and interesting place to discuss, learn, and just meet.

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"The world is a dangerous place, not because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing." - Albert Einstein

lovescats · ‎03-10-2010

@Desert Lily wrote:
@lovescats I don't believe that negativity will attract new posters, and the goal of this thread again is to encourage not discourage.

And again can't you see why this post to me is why people don't want to post all the time. I gave an opinion you didn't like and you can't just pass on by which I guess I'm doing the same thing. I don't know why giving a different opinion than yours is being. negative. to me you are not encouraging people you are correcting them that they are not agreeing with you.

deepwaterdotter · ‎03-09-2010

Three weeks ago a fellow poster stated I was "ignorant" and made "absurd comments". Think I'll continue to just be a rider.

ID2 · ‎06-25-2012

I pretty much have a totally difference of opinion that the remarks I read on hear. Sometimes I express my different view,sometimes I just move on. In the past, when I did come back to see what others thought of my opinion, I found I was completey discredited and bullied. Now, I say what I want and never return. Very unfortunate.

"Pure Michigan"

Kachina624 · ‎03-10-2010

I think many people start threads then just sit back to see what will happen. To have a successful thread you must be an active participant. What fun is it to start a conversation, then sit silent? You must have thoughts on your subject or you wouldn't have brought them up. Don't argue but don't be afraid to support your position in an objective manner. State your case, then drop it.

The most fun I have here is engaging with other people, exchanging ideas, although we may not always agree, which is fine. We have a few old sore heads but most of our posters are fun, fair, interesting people who would love to talk to you.... ignore the rest.

New Mexico☀️Land Of Enchantment

Cakers3 · ‎06-17-2015

@chickenbutt wrote:
For some of us, starting threads is not a positive experience. I'm honestly not trying to be negative. I'm just being honest.

If you're not either more popular or a trouble-maker, starting threads here is an exercise in frustration and futility. They will sink faster than a boulder.

The other thing that's profoundly frustrating here is that, in no time flat, another person (usually somebody more popular) will start the same exact thread and off it goes while yours just sinks.

The last few times I did this in tv and movies that is how it went and I swear I will never start another one. It's maddening when somebody can't even be bothered to see if that exact subject is already here, usually not far from the top at all, and they start the same exact thread. On normal boards multiple threads will be deleted. But here, it's not like that.

I don't wish anybody ill will because I have manners, but it's really frustrating and just not worth it.

@chickenbutt I agree about the multiple threads in TV/Movies. We end up with the convos all over the place and not much making sense on either one (I saw 3 threads at one time).

It happens everytime with "This is Us". Beach-Mom always begins a new season with an upcoming summary and we always had good convos guessing what would happen.

Then there is a second one and comments start to be posted in response to the first thread. It gets confusing who is talking about what.

We discuss Yellowstone and along comes a thread to talk about one character. Now we have two and people start posting on both and the convo no longer tracks.

If I bump up a thread, I will preface it by saying this is the latest one I could find. If not, somebody can correct it or let it be.

Sometimes the second thread is right under the first thread-I believe at that point it is done on purpose, depending upon who the posters are.

The same applies to posts-one post gets repeated almost word for word-lots of hearts while the original post is ignored. I'm not talking about posts that are pages apart; I'm talking about posts that are close together.

"" Compassion is a verb."-Thich Nhat Hanh

Cakers3 · ‎06-17-2015

I always preface my post on ShowMe's thread with "Hello to all who post and read". That way any person who is hesitant to post will feel (hopefully) welcomed even without posting.

@Desert Lily I believe your intentions are good but I don't believe posters should feel that they have to post in order to bring the board to life, so to speak.

Not everyone is comfortable sharing. If one feels the boards have been boring, it is because the boards are boring in that person's eyes. It doesn't mean they have to remedy the situation.

The idea of interesting topics is vague, at best. One size will never fit all; and what I consider "interesting" may be "boring" or "repetitive" to others.

And vice versa.

Unless one is a newbie and has not noticed, no good deed goes unpunished. The best of threads often have been dragged down.

I say let it be.

Just sayin'.

"" Compassion is a verb."-Thich Nhat Hanh

Desert Lily · ‎06-24-2011

I'd really like to hear from new posters, and the purpose of this thread was to invite & motivate readers/riders to participate and join the conversation. In one way, it's like a classroom in which the same kids raise their hands while others sit quietly thinking. I was always one of the quiet ones. But if we didn't verbalize our thoughts, they did come out in our writing.

I'm not sure of an argument against welcoming new posters. If this thread is also about experienced posters, then perhaps it's about modeling, teaching, & inspiring.