Another New Wedding Thing (To Me)

JeanLouiseFinch · ‎10-03-2011

We attended a wedding on Sunday. It was May 4th and the couple is kinda geeky so they chose a Star Wars theme. It was awesome. She wore a beautiful sparkling gown instead of a traditional bridal gown. The music was fantastic. Food was very good. We sat with nice people. All in all, a truly great time.

The one usual thing that happened is that the groom took the bride's last name. I've never heard of that before.

Bonkers1 · ‎07-29-2012

Interesting.

september · ‎03-09-2010

Another newer thing to me, is that sometimes each partner takes on a new name that is a blend of each of their names. I like that.

I won't use the words bride and groom, because the first couple I knew that did this....both were brides.

PA Mom-mom · ‎05-27-2015

New to me too. It's going to drive the genealogists crazy! Hahaha!

Citrine1 · ‎03-09-2010

Oh boy, Star Wars theme, groom taking the brides last name - - sorry, but I don't get it. I like tradition.

Sage04 · ‎07-10-2011

When my son' friends got married the husband took the wife's last name because he didn't like his. They were 23 and 27.

beach-mom · ‎03-09-2010

@Sage04 wrote:
When my son' friends got married the husband took the wife's last name because he didn't like his. They were 23 and 27.

Similar situation - we went to a wedding where they both took the groom's MIDDLE name as their last name. His real last name would be a hard one to live with, but his parents did. Now she uses her maiden name as her professional name, but together they still use his middle name. First time we'd ever seen this done.

Sadly it cost them their relationship with his paternal grandparents, who would not attend the wedding.

Zoe · ‎06-10-2015

A co-worker, David, took his wife's name 25 years ago. His rationale: his wife had 2 sisters and no brothers. He did it as a gesture to his new FIL to carry on their family name since the FIL had no sons to carry on the name. A truly loving gesture. He also thought his wife's last name was unique, whereas his was more common.

His parents got over it, eventually...though when the grandkids arrived, his parents kept buying stock and bonds in the kids' names -- but with David's last name before he took his wife's name. It was a mess to correct all of that. By the oldest kid's 10th birthday, they finally gave all of that up and embraced their grandchildren's proper last name.

Taking a spouse's name isn't for me, but to each their own. Everyone should do what makes them feel most comfortable.

wagirl · ‎03-09-2010

First off--what a fun wedding theme!! I am kind of a mild Star Wars geek myself and love that !! It's kind of nice to out of the box with weddings---and never heard of taking the brides last name--wonder if there is a story to it like the one mention here---

May the force be with you--

geezerette · ‎03-16-2010

@Zoe wrote:
A co-worker, David, took his wife's name 25 years ago. His rationale: his wife had 2 sisters and no brothers. He did it as a gesture to his new FIL to carry on their family name since the FIL had no sons to carry on the name. A truly loving gesture. He also thought his wife's last name was unique, whereas his was more common.

His parents got over it, eventually...though when the grandkids arrived, his parents kept buying stock and bonds in the kids' names -- but with David's last name before he took his wife's name. It was a mess to correct all of that. By the oldest kid's 10th birthday, they finally gave all of that up and embraced their grandchildren's proper last name.

Taking a spouse's name isn't for me, but to each their own. Everyone should do what makes them feel most comfortable.

Didn't that often happen in "olden days" when there were no male relatives to carry on a (usually prominent) family name?