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On 4/2/2015 dooBdoo said:

Hi, Noel! Yikes, I hope you know me well enough to know I don't deny existence of or offer excuses for abuse.{#emotions_dlg.sad} I've mentioned my experience with abuse, though I won't go into details again here. Have you read the book? It's about learning to love and value yourself. It's a book of compassion and love, about stress-management, personal growth, and self-awareness. He's talking about trying to avoid self-abuse in that summary but also about learning and appreciating our own, intrinsic value and shedding as much of the bad things, or bad people, or bad energy, as we possibly can. It's not about guaranteeing bad things won't happen in life, and it's far from telling anyone to accept or enable harm toward anyone. Just being able to recognize it and do what we can to make a good life. But it's so much more than that. The summary isn't really enough of an explanation and I know I'm not going to be an adequate interpreter... as I said, I'm just now re-reading it.

O/T, I do hope you're healing and taking gentle care of yourself. Please see my post on your thread in the Health and Fitness forum, okay. (((gentle cyberhugs))) so those ribs won't hurt.{#emotions_dlg.wub}

dBd, I did't think that, I do know you well enough to know you are aware of abuse. I thought perhaps you didn't catch the comment referred to. I've missed red flags like that before.
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dBd, I'll look for your other post, and thank you Smiley Happy
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Thanks for clarifying, Noel! It's a little book, and of course it doesn't stand alone as a person's handbook for life. I just thought the parallels with Pashmina's quotes were interesting... and really can be quite helpful in dealing with people who try to hurt us. It's a complex subject and I take this thread as a jumping-off point in considering all possibilities.

Have a nice evening!Smile

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On 4/2/2015 dooBdoo said:

Thanks for clarifying, Noel! It's a little book, and of course it doesn't stand alone as a person's handbook for life. I just thought the parallels with Pashmina's quotes were interesting... and really can be quite helpful in dealing with people who try to hurt us. It's a complex subject and I take this thread as a jumping-off point in considering all possibilities.

Have a nice evening!Smile

You have a nice evening, too Smiley Happy Goodnight.
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Right or wrong, we are only voicing our own life-long experiences. What we have seen, or what we have observed/recalled/read about in others folks' experiences.

'More or less', 'Right or wrong', 'In general', and 'Just thinking out loud ' (as usual).
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I agree with the article. And I also agree that there can be verbal abuse, usually accompanied by demeaning tone of voice by the abuser and a feeling of fear or intimidation by the person being verbally abused.

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If only the Housewives of BH, NY, OC, etc. could read this. Someone send one to Andy Cohen and ask him to pass copies on to the "ladies."

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I have a quote that is similar to what is being said. It's something I would try to remember when dealing with a bad boss who was very negative and demeaning.

"If we are willing to look at another person's behavior towards us as a reflection of the state of his relationship with himself rather than as a statement about our value as a person, then we will, over a period of time, cease to react at all." ~ Anonymous

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On 4/2/2015 NoelSeven said: What is the source of the commentary?

I believe I gave the source but what difference does it make who said it if the words ring true?

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On 4/4/2015 Pashmina said:
On 4/2/2015 NoelSeven said: What is the source of the commentary?

I believe I gave the source but what difference does it make who said it if the words ring true?

Is the author's last name Prinzivalli?