Community Chat

[kittyloo]

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@Mz iMac wrote:

"I was invited to a wedding....."

"...son of a friend.  I don't know the son well..."

Why the invite then?  Prime example of "invite for gift."  If I were in shoes, I would send them a nice wedding card & like you, not attend.  Nothing more & nothing less.

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great minds think alike.  

[kittyloo]

how about this?  If the invitation left out the sons name, would you know what it was right away? 

If the answer to that is no.... a card is sufficient. 

gift grab. 

[beach-mom]

The standard "gift" around her is $50-$100. I'm coming up on wedding #3 this summer. If DH and I both go, I give $100; if I go by myself, I give $50. If I know the couple well (like in wedding #2), I try to give them something from their registry. 

[shellbeach]

Quite a variety of thoughts! I started out thinking $50, then thought maybe $100 is more appropriate.  After reading the comments, I am back to my original thought of $50 max.  Appreciate all the input!

[Janey2]

I guess it depends on what part of the country you live. We always are invited to friends sons and daughters weddings..Sometimes we have never met the children. Sometimes it is a business relationship and we do not know the children.  If you do not plan to go I would give $200 or $250.

[fthunt]

Glad we could help - - enjoyed the posting.  You are welcome!

[GinzTonic]

i feel like every time this subject comes up, there is always a wide swing . It seems there are great regional differences.  If we go to a wedding it’s like 400-500$ ,depending who it is...

[RollTide2008]

I think it depends on the norm in your social circle. If I don’t know the bride or groom and I’m not going to the wedding, I send a card with a hand written note expressing well wishes.

[faeriemoon]

I don't think it's weird to be invited to the wedding of the son of a friend.  When parents put together a wedding guest list they include their friends too if they are close to them.

If you are not planning to attend, I wouldn't give less than $100. 

[Shanus]

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@shellbeach wrote:

I am woefully not up to date on what is an appropriate amount of cash to give as a wedding gift. I was invited to a wedding and while I don't plan to attend, the groom is the son of a friend.  I don't know the son well, but do want to send something to send good wishes to the couple.  How much do folks gift these days?

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@shellbeach  When in doubt, instead of cash I like to give a gift. Check to see if they’ve registered for things they need. Your friend may be able to help you w/ a list of where to look.