Re: Am I being too sensitive?

Luv2Decorate · ‎03-12-2010

If he's always been like this a "me me" person, and you've always gone along with it, why would he be concerned about leaving?

Instead of being down, look at it like an opportunity to do your own thing! Have your girl friends over for wine, go to dinner with them, go shopping, take a pottery or painting class, go for hikes and be outdoors as much possible. Experiment in the kitchen! Make foods you never have and if it works, great! if not, you can toss it and he'll never know. Ha!

Have fun, don't dwell on it.

jubilant · ‎06-10-2010

If the shoe were on the other foot....would he mind? If it were me and he was a selfish person.... and has been..... for that many years....I think I would enjoy not having him around for awhile! Learn to have fun without him. Those kind of people are not that easy to live with. Go have a blast....maybe be a few days late getting there because your having such a good time. Do it with a happy attitude....not a poor me attitude. There are always consequences to our actions and if you should choose to do something like this...be prepared. It sounds to me like this is a very engrained pattern in your marriage and he probably thinks...why not...she won't mind. If you don't express your feelings that is your fault. If you do and he doesn't even listen that should be a red flag. I have a feeling you didn't tell him how you felt because it wouldn't have mattered. Your feeling are your feelings and they are worthy of being listened to. One sided marriages are not happy marriages.

Still Raining · ‎03-30-2014

Since it is only for a short time and you will be coming back together at Easter, I don't see an issue. Did he go down to get everything in order for the eventual move? If so, you should thank him for the effort.

maryebrown_1 · ‎09-14-2012

I would use his "me" time, away from you, as "Your" time to enjoy doing things that your DH doesn't like to do... Wink

RedTop · ‎09-01-2010

My expectations are that retirement is going to be very interesting.........

Danky · ‎08-04-2013

Way too sensitive.....was there a reason for him to stay home ? Did you need him for something ? Maybe what you call a "me-me" person is simply an independent person who doesn't want to be joined at the hip. Maybe he sees you as too clingy.....in any event, even if he stayed home, you would still have to work. Do your time and then join him to spend the rest of your lives together. This "episode" should be less than a non-issue.

violann · ‎03-10-2010

do you feel bad because you're going to miss him or do you just want him to hang around because you don't want him to enjoy the new surroundings until you can enjoy them too?