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[Ditzydori]

We own a condo in Florida, which we just bought about 6 months ago. I am retiring in 3 months and then I'm free to go down. In the meantime, my husband, who is already retired, just left today to go down and enjoy. I, however, had to stay home to go to work. I will meet him down there the Easter week. I would not have told him not to go. the fact that he wanted to go and did not care that I had to stay behind to work didn't bother him in the least, and that fact was enough to hurt me deeply. So I would have not "forced" him to stay until I could go. Hubby always was a "me me" person and I have gone along with that for 40 years. Now in my 60s it bothers me. What do you think? Am I being too sensitive or should I just s**k it up? (we will come back together after Easter.)

[traveler]

Sorry, I can't relate. DH was in military for 24years and often lived someplace else. Then the last 6 years he lived alone in Alaska for 6 months while I returned to Michigan every summer. And you just have to wait 3 months?

[redhead handbag queen]

On 3/12/2015 traveler said:

Sorry, I can't relate. DH was in military for 24years and often lived someplace else. Then the last 6 years he lived alone in Alaska for 6 months while I returned to Michigan every summer. And you just have to wait 3 months?

I might be wrong but I don't think it has to do with how long, it has more to do with his attitude about it.

[NoelSeven]

Did you tell him how you felt about his decision to leave you behind for three months?

[LucyGoose]

No, OP. I don't think you're being too sensitive. It sounds like he doesn't even miss you, or want you, where's the passion? That's how I would feel if my husband went on down to the condo and couldn't even wait a month so I could go with him. That would hurt my feelings, too. I'd ask him if he had a problem with me.

[SleeplessinSD]

I only think you are because as you say, you've been married 40 years and he's always been this way...a "me" person, He hasn't changed, you have. Easter is just a couple weeks away. It's too bad he couldn't wait for you to go together, but try and s**k it up. A condo in Florida sounds wonderful. In three months, this won't be an issue!

[Shorty2U]

No you're not being too sensitive.

[Ditzydori]

Thanks ladies. As you can see, it's 2:11 am and I'm still awake. I have to get up in 5 hours but I'm upset. Oh well, tomorrow is a new day. I better close my eyes now. Good nite.

[NoelSeven]

Dori, often we want men to be mind readers, to understand how we feel about things. But they don't know unless we tell them. You say he's always been about himself. It might be a good idea if you open up to him and tell him how you feel and what's going on with you and what your needs and wants are.

[Lakk]

If he's been "me me" for 40 years and your still there, I'd let it slide.