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Hi Sass! Many hugs and much love to you! My heart goes out to you. It seems we get very little time to enjoy our own life sometimes when we have finished raising our own kids and then we move on to taking care of our elderly parents. My father is schizophrenic and the last year has been challenging to say the least, but for now his meds are balanced and he is doing well.

I agree with the others that a support group would be a good thing, they will understand and be able to offer suggestions on how to help you.

If the care taking gets to be too much can you find a care taker to help or a memory care center for her? I know we don't want to do that to our parents, but we also need to take care of ourselves.

My dad was in a nursing home for 3 mths after being in a psych ward, I saw him everyday after work to be by his side, his meds are balanced now and he is thriving in a board and care, my mom couldn't handle any of this and went to live with my sister, I am hoping someday they can be together again. But he was basically dumped on my doorstep.

After sometime I was able to see his care was something beyond what I could do for him.

We are able to do outings now and my husband and I take both the dads out now and have dinners, gatherings with them. We make it a big part of our lives, but their care was more than we could continue to do without help and continue to have a quality life of our own. As it is we spend a big part of our own days off, on the phone with doctors, insurance, medicare, etc. The time we have together if even for a few hours becomes very precious.

I hope you will be able to get some help Sassy, and get some support. Don't put it all on yourself and do not feel guilty if you need to place her to be able to get some additional care and support. Please take care of YOU too

xoxo!

Thinking of you!!