Re: Akward request to attend funeral

Trailrun23 · ‎05-31-2022

Thanks for the most helpful amd reassuring post so far. ❤️ Ironically enough, DH and I both lost our exes within three weeks of each other. I do appreciate your prayers.

Mom2Dogs · ‎03-09-2010

@Trailrun23 No one on these boards knows the dynamics in your family...I see nothing wrong with posting about the issue.

Sometimes I have changed my mind, once I hear other points of view...

with that said, I am estranged from two sisters, and I know with out asking anyone that if they should pass before me, I will not be attending their funeral...harsh, maybe,..but then no one knows what went on, I know that I will not change my mind.

Trailrun23 · ‎05-31-2022

Wow. Nowhere in my post did I call her a loser.

Trailrun23 · ‎05-31-2022

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I am sure those with estranged family members may look at attending a funeral differently. I know you have reasons for how you feel and would never tell you that you must attend their funerals if you don't desire to.
it seems that a death in the family can bring out the worst in families, whether divorce is involved or not.

Mersha · ‎03-10-2010

@Mom2Dogs wrote:
@Trailrun23 No one on these boards knows the dynamics in your family...I see nothing wrong with posting about the issue.

Sometimes I have changed my mind, once I hear other points of view...
with that said, I am estranged from two sisters, and I know with out asking anyone that if they should pass before me, I will not be attending their funeral...harsh, maybe,..but then no one knows what went on, I know that I will not change my mind.

@Mom2Dogs I totally understand what you are saying. I have a situation in my family that would be very difficult to explain to someone how and why we think and feel as we do regarding a certain family member.

People just don't know/understand all the facts of a matter before a judgment is formed.

"My desire to be well informed is currently at odds with my desire to remain sane."

AnjalenaQVC · ‎07-21-2018

Moved:

This post has been removed by QVC because it is unkind

depglass · ‎03-10-2010

Those few hours won't kill him. Do it for the son. He obviously needs support.

RetRN · ‎10-01-2013

I think the sons feel guilty. It doesn't sound like they had a relationship with the mother or visited her and were not there to help or care for her in the end.

Thanks for your responses @Trailrun23 and I hope your DH did not attend.

tiny 2 · ‎03-10-2010

@RetRN wrote:
I think the sons feel guilty. It doesn't sound like they had a relationship with the mother or visited her and were not there to help or care for her in the end.
Thanks for your responses @Trailrun23 and I hope your DH did not attend.

@RetRN, She posted that the funeral was going to be on Aug.18 in a different state.There is more but I have a chirping smoke detector that is producing a massive headache.