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[rms1954]

Maybe.  But for whatever reason, I'll never know.  I am left with a void to deal with.  Thankful I at least had my Dad who was kind and loving.  Unfortunately, each time he would come to my defense, there was another beating to be had.  I finally asked my Dad not to stick up for me.

[rms1954]

Yes it is.  Still to this day I can't figure out why I was the one singled out of the six children.  She disliked her own sister and my Dad's sister and she never failed to compare me to being just like them or looking like them.  

[Mimi NY]

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@rms1954 wrote:

It's something you never get over.  The only positive is I promised myself I would never ever ever utter a cruel word or raise my hand to my children.  I have a son and daughter who are loving, giving, kind and caring people.  I love them dearly.  I can die knowing I left the world a better place leaving them here.  

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Your children are who they are because of YOU. Everyone has some kind of hurt growing up,but be proud of yourself you broke that cycle and became the  mother you wished your mother would had been.

We all have to make our own world and you promised yourself what you wanted for yours when the time came and  you would become a MOTHER.

[lbwshop]

My dad always said that to me--only didn't say that I was ugly--just that I'd be let go of as soon as they got me under a street light!  He was quite a joker, and we all took his comments as funny, not mean.  I would love to hear him say it again.

[tiny 2]

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@rms1954 wrote:

It's something you never get over.  The only positive is I promised myself I would never ever ever utter a cruel word or raise my hand to my children.  I have a son and daughter who are loving, giving, kind and caring people.  I love them dearly.  I can die knowing I left the world a better place leaving them here.  

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@rms1954  @kate2357 @Imaoldhippie @Zhills @Silhouettes shadow @Kachina624 

There is a thread from a couple of years back started by furbabylover called BAD MOTHERS(Among Friends forum). There are a lot of our fellow posters here that have endured terrible abuse. I hope you will read it  and know that you are not alone. furbabylover opened with a suggested book that had helped her. She wanted to share with others. Here is a post from her in the thread,

"There is a very distinct and unique void, a "hole in the heart" that comes from not being loved by your mother. Yes, other people can help you in your life, but NOTHING fills the void of a heartless mother."

@rms1954  It is often one singled out child that receives the abuse.

[Imaoldhippie]

@tiny 2 ...............I remember that thread.  I was surprised at the number of posters on that thread that had abusive mothers.

[Silhouettes shadow]

Tiny2, Thank you for mentioning the thread started by furbabylover a few years ago.  I found it.  I appreciate your thoughfulness.

"Be Blessed"

[rms1954]

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@tiny 2 wrote:

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@rms1954 wrote:

It's something you never get over.  The only positive is I promised myself I would never ever ever utter a cruel word or raise my hand to my children.  I have a son and daughter who are loving, giving, kind and caring people.  I love them dearly.  I can die knowing I left the world a better place leaving them here.  

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@rms1954  @kate2357 @Imaoldhippie @Zhills @Silhouettes shadow @Kachina624 

There is a thread from a couple of years back started by furbabylover called BAD MOTHERS(Among Friends forum). There are a lot of our fellow posters here that have endured terrible abuse. I hope you will read it  and know that you are not alone. furbabylover opened with a suggested book that had helped her. She wanted to share with others. Here is a post from her in the thread,

"There is a very distinct and unique void, a "hole in the heart" that comes from not being loved by your mother. Yes, other people can help you in your life, but NOTHING fills the void of a heartless mother."

@rms1954  It is often one singled out child that receives the abuse.

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That's hitting the nail on the head for sure. coincidentally it was her birthday today..