18, and Out?

JeanLouiseFinch · ‎10-03-2011

The "charging your child rent" thread got me wondering. I've known some people who subscribe to the "18 and out" philosophy but I could never never do that. When our kids were in high school, DH and I made them get part time jobs. I told them if they didn't work I would no longer do their laundry. They began doing their ownlaundry while looking for work and ended up figuring out how to manage both. We helped them get their first cars, but they were nothing fancy, just decent older cars that got them from Point A to Point B. They had to maintain a certain GPA for a better insurance rate. If they didn't, they'd have to pay the difference or they wouldn't be driving so they would stand to lose their jobs. I wasn't a taxi service. Even with our rules, they had it pretty good here. Since they were in school or working, we allowed them to live at home until they were ready to leave. It was well beyond 18, but we didn't mind.

What did you do with your kids when they reached age 18?

Malcontent · ‎05-24-2015

@JeanLouiseFinch

Pops and I moved and didn’t tell the kids where.

haddon9 · ‎03-09-2010

Both kids went to college at the age of 18

HLP · ‎04-02-2015

@JeanLouiseFinch wrote:
The "charging your child rent" thread got me wondering. I've known some people who subscripe to the "18 and out" philosophy but I could never never do that. When our kids were in high school, DH and I made them get part time jobs. I told them if they didn't work I would no longer do their laundry. They began doing their ownlaundry while looking for work and ended up figuring out how to manage both. We helped them get their first cars, but they were nothing fancy, just decent older cars that got them from Point A to Point B. They had to maintain a certain GPA for a better insurance rate. If they didn't, they'd have to pay the difference or they wouldn't be driving so they would stand to lose their jobs. I wasn't a taxi service. Even with our rules, they had it pretty good here. Since they were in school or working, we allowed them to live at home until they were ready to leave. It was well beyond 18, but we didn't mind.

What did you did with your kids when they reach age 18?

Mine went to college in another town. Met a lovely girl married after he got his Master degree, and bought his own home here and lives 20 minutes away.They are now the parents of a daughter who has her Doctorate degree and a job, and 2 little ones. They are all welcome here anytime.

tansy · ‎01-02-2011

Both of my sons went to community college before transferring to a university so they stayed home. Both had part time jobs. Both had been doing their own laundry since high school.

JeanLouiseFinch · ‎10-03-2011

@haddon9 wrote:
Both kids went to college at the age of 18

Did they ever return home, or did they move on to their adult life after graduating?

MamaWick · ‎03-09-2010

First son went off to college. Second son went into the Marines.

My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness ~ Dalai Lama XIV

When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace ~ Jimi Hendrix

haddon9 · ‎03-09-2010

@JeanLouiseFinch wrote:
@haddon9 wrote:
Both kids went to college at the age of 18
Did they ever return home, or did they move on to their adult life after graduating?

@JeanLouiseFinch Both moved back home. DD briefly after college then moved into an apartment that she shared with some roommates. She's now married with a baby & her own home.

DS also got an apartment after college but moved back home after living in Philly for 7 years while switching jobs. It was only going to be for a few weeks but we convinced him to stay since he was a big help with DH who is disabled.

DS got to save a lot of money while living with us for two years. He now rents a home about half an hour away.

spent2much · ‎03-10-2010

@JeanLouiseFinch Sounds to me like you were very good, wise parents!

ETERNITY: your choice... smoking or non smoking!

Desert Lily · ‎06-24-2011

I was a single mom and would not allow my child to have a job in high school. My main concern for my child was academics and a successful future. My child ended up being a National Merit Scholar, went to an ivy league college on grants for degrees in math & physics, and then went to another ivy league college for their doctoral program in physics. Summers were spent in internships, but my child came home every college break, holiday, & what was left in the summers when the internships were done. My child has a successful career here, and I moved from the West Coast to the East Coast when I retired to be near.

My parents never had a rule of 18 and out for my siblings or me. They were supportive, and we were motivated. I wanted to be supportive as a parent, too.