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Re: I have a SERIOUS Problem. Anyone else do this?

On 5/2/2014 rina33 said:
On 5/2/2014 vaccinia said:

One thing that might help is to make a list of "wants" that you would like to buy, and pull it out anytime you're tempted to buy another bottle of conditioner. The money you save by not buying that conditioner can go toward something on your "wants" list.

THAT IS a very good idea, and I did that last nite. I went to my Nordstrom's "wish-list" before I went to bed and there were $409 worth of masks on my wish list.

So, this morning, after I opened my email from "Carol's Daughter" and saw they were having a sale, I decided it would be cheaper to spend $90 on conditioners.

MORE conditioners! (sigh)

{#emotions_dlg.sad}

I LOVE face masks too!!!!!!!

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Re: I have a SERIOUS Problem. Anyone else do this?

I think many of us do this with different things. I like watches, have more then I need or can wear in a lifetime and find myself wearing one or two more frequently. And white t-shirts is another issue I have. Must be twenty white/ivory t-shirts in my closet.

As far as product, I wish manufacturers would make small sample size bottles. Give consumers opportunity to try the product. Of course, I'm wishful thinking. They don't care if we get their product at full size then pitch it. Its more money for them.

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Re: I have a SERIOUS Problem. Anyone else do this?

On 5/2/2014 gazelle77 said:

I LOVE face masks too!!!!!!!

Masks are amazing! I used to mask once a month or less. Now I try to mask at least 5 days a week. The results are fabulous! And for crow's feet, I've made an AMAZING discovery! >>> Institut Esthederm's Eye Patches! OMG!! {#emotions_dlg.tt1}

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Re: I have a SERIOUS Problem. Anyone else do this?

It sounds like you are a hoarder of conditioners. Stay away from Wen because that will be a very expensive hoard.

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Re: I have a SERIOUS Problem. Anyone else do this?

I haven't hit the "buy" button yet, ... BUT, I'm such a sucker for free shipping and discounts.

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Re: I have a SERIOUS Problem. Anyone else do this?

Not to get all serious on a shopping channel message board, of all places, but obsessive-compulsive behavior is not necessarily something to dismiss as no big deal. If a person truly can't stop herself, then that by definition is affecting her in an adverse way.

IMO, an individual can really tell the difference between just enjoying certain products and being emotionally compelled to buying so many that their actual purpose becomes irrelevant.

The opening post indicates that the OP is concerned. I would suggest that she try some baby steps to control this problem or to seek some advice on how to do that.


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Re: I have a SERIOUS Problem. Anyone else do this?

I used to collect a lot of conditioners until I sat my hairdresser down and told her my dilemma and that I'm always trying to achieve perfect waves since my hair is naturally wavy, but kind of coarse and pretty thick. She told me the exact shampoo, conditioner and hair products she uses each time I visit. I now use those 4 products and will donate the rest of my collection. Maybe you need to have a heart to heart with your hair dresser? If you think it's more of a compulsive behavior rather than a collection, then I'd suggest seeing a Cognitive Behavioral Therapist who will help analyze, understand and guide you through minimizing your need to buy more conditioners. I wish you the best of luck and don't be afraid or embarrassed to seek help from a professional, everyone needs a tune up once in a while to reevaluate themselves. It takes courage to speak up and ask for help and guidance and I'm proud of you for using these forums as an outlet. I used to have 90 lipsticks and glosses, now I have 40, I pare down my collection each year and am continuing to make progress in terms of not fixating on buying lip gloss and lipstick. We all have our own beauty fixations, its just important to keep it in check with a set allowance, amount of items and holding ourselves accountable for our actions.

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I agree about seeking therapy, or at least look at some websites or go to the library and get some books about addictive behavior. We can justify that an item only costs 10, 15, 20 dollars. But if you buy multiples you could start nickel and diming yourself into some serious debt. People can also justify because they have an income that they can spend like that. But do you really want to trade your life energy for cosmetics? For example, if you work a job that pays 15 dollars an hour and you buy a conditioner that's 15.00, well that is one hour of your life that you will never get back that you traded for a bottle of conditioner. Ninety dollars worth of conditioner would be six hours, etc.

Don't know if that makes sense. You do seem concerned about this and I hope you get the help you need.

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I would say 30 or 40 conditioners is a bit unusual.

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On 5/2/2014 beautybee said:

I agree about seeking therapy, or at least look at some websites or go to the library and get some books about addictive behavior. We can justify that an item only costs 10, 15, 20 dollars. But if you buy multiples you could start nickel and diming yourself into some serious debt. People can also justify because they have an income that they can spend like that. But do you really want to trade your life energy for cosmetics? For example, if you work a job that pays 15 dollars an hour and you buy a conditioner that's 15.00, well that is one hour of your life that you will never get back that you traded for a bottle of conditioner. Ninety dollars worth of conditioner would be six hours, etc.

Don't know if that makes sense. You do seem concerned about this and I hope you get the help you need.

I'm glad that you mention this. I've seen that justification many, many times. IMO, a person with not even two dimes to rub together and a person with unlimited wealth can both have an obsessive-compulsion. Income is irrelevant in that case other than the fact that the former's lack of funds will have certain consequences.

If you simply are unable to control what I truly believe most people recognize intuitively as a kind of addiction or compulsion, then it's a problem, no matter how much money you have.


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