Beauty

[monicakm]

@vermint 

Oh I think it made her day alright!  I'm glad you listened to your gut and turned around to spread some sunshine

[monicakm]

@Shanus 

Maybe we can all make a pact to spread more kindness into our corner of the world.  If you'd rather not touch someone (to me it's an added gesture of kindness), that's ok.  

[monicakm]

@wagirl 

It was definitely her clothing that made me look twice because it's colors I would wear.  I actually went online to see if I could find the shirt lol.  Yep, I'm going to double or triple up on my compliments since I'm not out as often.

[monicakm]

So true @Shelbelle and the rewards are great.

[monicakm]

@haddon9 

they may be jealous of you for some reason. 

That was the case with my friend.  She didn't like herself or her husband and was jealous of everyone else.

[San Antonio Gal]

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@Lucky Dog wrote:

@monicakm : You made her day (although,I would not want a stranger in the grocery store tapping me on the shoulder).

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What's wrong with tapping one's shoulder @Lucky Dog ?  

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@San Antonio Gal  - I try to be aware of a person's sensory boundaries.  Some people don't like being touched or tapped  - a tap is a touch - by a stranger.  Personally, I do not like being tapped on the arm or shoulder by a stranger.   The stranger is getting a bit too close if they feel they can tap or touch me.

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@JudyL  @monicakm  -  A tap would not bother me.  I know everyone is different.  Now if someone got in my personal space, I would not like that one bit. 

[Denise65]

This is a great thread, it made my day just reading it.

I too love to give compliments and even smiles, especially to strangers.  Positive reinforcement is a very powerful motivator and someone might remember what you said for a long time.  It makes me glad to spread good feelings.

I don't know if it's because I'm an introvert or a New Englander or both, but I don't like anyone touching me.  I make a joke out of it, spread out my arms and say 'this is how much space I need.'  I would have jumped about a foot and screamed (I scream when startled) if someone I didn't know had tapped me.  I'm sure I'm in the minority on that.

Thank you all for posting your stories. 

[Tinkrbl44]

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@San Antonio Gal wrote:

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@Lucky Dog wrote:

@monicakm : You made her day (although,I would not want a stranger in the grocery store tapping me on the shoulder).

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What's wrong with tapping one's shoulder @Lucky Dog ?  

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Not by someone I do not know.

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@Lucky Dog  @monicakm 

I think it depends on the words that come with the tap .... if it's a kindly Excuse Me ..... or a Hey You .... to get someone's attention.   

[Tinkrbl44]

Sometimes a compliment can go sideways.

I still recall being out shopping and had just gone through a revolving door with 3 women in their early 20s.  

One stopped in front of me and said "OMG, what a gorgeous jacket!  My GRANDMOTHER would love it".

Uh, okay.  Thanks ... I think.   LOL  

[spumoni99]

I definitely would not appreciate a stranger touching me.