Beauty

[aprilskies]

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@geezerette wrote:

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@just bee wrote:

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@geezerette wrote:

@aprilskies 

Thank you for your kind wishes.❤️  I've been fighting the urge to be critical, which is my natural state.☺️  I know the situation wasn't as serious when he was exposed, but why did they have to go out anyway?  

But I'm seeing so many people that have been so judgmental of others for so long that are now continuing that and being totally unreasonable and unrealistic.  And being critical of the very people that they're now relying on for survival.  Yet they still don't see what they're doing.  So I'm trying to be a good girl.😇  (It's tough.😉)

I hope you and your parents are doing well.  I know it must be even more challenging for you now.  Please do remember to take time for yourself to decompress.  

I totally agree about being aware of all we have taken for granted.  I was raised by parents that endured many hardships, but I was fortunate enough to not have to go through any of those really tough times.  None of us have. 

Oddly, or perhaps not oddly, it just reinforces my opinion about having less but appreciating what I do have.  Finding out my basic priorities.  Not the dozens of things I've been told that should be important to me.  My choices.  

I might be wrong, but I think that having less in times like this would make it easier to deal with.  I don't really know why I feel this.  Having what I actually use and what I actually enjoy, instead of all the excess I seem to keep finding I still have.  

But that's just me.  I'm getting old. And I have a head full of pollen.🥴

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@geezerette 

I almost had him convinced.  And then he dropped it in the trash.

Could have donated it...  Hard case, that BH.

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@just bee 

True.

Well, that's my point.  It was his choice not to save either the picture or the frame.  Granted, it may have been nice if he had let you use the frame... 

I honestly think this is a good thing.  But it can be frustrating.😫

Compromise.  Remember he's tolerating your idiosyncrasies too.😉

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@geezerette

@just bee 

I will be lying if I said I didnt feel the same way as your DH.  Sometimes you just want things gone. I am starting to feel this more and more. I have been decluttering all along but just recently just took a whole bunch to the Salvation Army. I was relieved.  But, I just got in the donation before they closed, was it the right thing to do when I knew they would be closing, I dont know, but I am glad it is all gone. However, now that the donation centers are all closed, do I leave the next donation in a corner waiting for them to open or just toss the items? I know I will wait because something in me will not allow to toss but I am getting there especially if the centers are closed for months on end. 

@just bee, I think what is interesting about you and your DH is that you are two different personalities, as far as "stuff" goes, that made it work for so long. And truthfully, I wish I had someone here that can make those decisions.

[just bee]

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@geezerette wrote:

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@just bee wrote:

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@geezerette wrote:

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@just bee wrote:

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@geezerette wrote:

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@just bee wrote:

@geezerette 

Just had my tax appointment and mentioned the house fire and the pandemic... so, what's next?

Parasites?

As it turns out, that puppy went to the vet and got its shots and was examined for fleas.  No fleas.  Well, that's a relief.

But the receptionist at the tax place chirped: "I think it will be tornadoes!"

Just heard there was a tornado in Jonesboro and it's moving through the Heartland.  Hope it's not in your neck of the woods.

Oh, wait.  I know what the next thing is after the pandemic.  Checks to state and federal, even higher than last year. 

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@just bee 

Close, but no cigar.  Thankfully.  I've been watching inane stuff on TV so I didn't even know it hit until I turned on the news to get the weather.  My weather radio was flashing all day, but I rarely pay attention to that unless a definite tornado is coming for me immediately.  It happens so often I'm immune. 

At least you made enough money to actually have to pay taxes.  I didn't.  Well, that's not exactly true.  It's just that the estimated taxes I did pay were too much so I won't have to pay them this year to the Feds.  I still have to pay the state.  How is that?  

I expect to make even less this year now.  Time to really start actively putting into practice some belt tightening.  I have plenty of principle, but I hate getting into that.  It might have to last a while.  Because as we've seen, who knows what will happen from now on?

I'm just glad I was indecisive enough not to have bought a new house.  I'd hate to be stuck paying for two places now and not have any idea when I could sell this one. I have Carla to thank for that.  If she were some small, manageable puppy I would have left already.  

Gee, I finally found something she's good for!😄

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@geezerette 

You love her!

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@just bee 

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@geezerette 

We all have a dark side...

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@just bee 

And some of us like to show it more than others...(no names🤣)

I was out trimming, or trying to, some bushes.  Carla has either a love or hate relationship with the pruning shears, I haven't quite figured out which yet.  Anyway, she "helps" with the trimming.  Thank goodness I don't live in an area where I care about what my bushes look like, is all I have to say.

G-d Almighty!  If she doesn't end up with major permanent tooth/jaw/mouth damage it will be a miracle.  She has so much fun though that I just stand back and laugh my head off.  And it's good exercise--she's out cold now.

I don't know about a burglar, but if I ever get attacked by a large bush, I'll be heartedly defended! 🤣

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@geezerette 

That could be next: The Day of the Triffids!

Killer plants!

[just bee]

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@geezerette wrote:

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@just bee wrote:

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@geezerette wrote:

@aprilskies 

Thank you for your kind wishes.❤️  I've been fighting the urge to be critical, which is my natural state.☺️  I know the situation wasn't as serious when he was exposed, but why did they have to go out anyway?  

But I'm seeing so many people that have been so judgmental of others for so long that are now continuing that and being totally unreasonable and unrealistic.  And being critical of the very people that they're now relying on for survival.  Yet they still don't see what they're doing.  So I'm trying to be a good girl.😇  (It's tough.😉)

I hope you and your parents are doing well.  I know it must be even more challenging for you now.  Please do remember to take time for yourself to decompress.  

I totally agree about being aware of all we have taken for granted.  I was raised by parents that endured many hardships, but I was fortunate enough to not have to go through any of those really tough times.  None of us have. 

Oddly, or perhaps not oddly, it just reinforces my opinion about having less but appreciating what I do have.  Finding out my basic priorities.  Not the dozens of things I've been told that should be important to me.  My choices.  

I might be wrong, but I think that having less in times like this would make it easier to deal with.  I don't really know why I feel this.  Having what I actually use and what I actually enjoy, instead of all the excess I seem to keep finding I still have.  

But that's just me.  I'm getting old. And I have a head full of pollen.🥴

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@geezerette 

It takes something like this to clear the cobwebs.  Keeping what's simple and useful and rejecting the superfluous.

Last night BH was sorting some things and found a framed photo from his brother.  He shredded the photo and started to toss the frame.

I lost all my family photos and boxes of frames and framed art.  I tried to talk him into saving the frame.  It actually matches the new cabinetry and since I don't have all my books to put on the shelves, it would be nice to have something there.

I almost had him convinced.  And then he dropped it in the trash.

Could have donated it...  Hard case, that BH.

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@just bee 

True.

Well, that's my point.  It was his choice not to save either the picture or the frame.  Granted, it may have been nice if he had let you use the frame...

Perhaps all that emotional stuff brings up too many, well, emotions for him that he just doesn't want to deal with.  I tossed some stuff of OG's that was perfectly usable.  For my own personal reasons I just didn't want certain things of his to belong to or be used by anyone else, even if it was for a good cause.  I knew at the time that was illogical.  After all, it was only "stuff".  But emotionally I just couldn't do it.  I didn't feel that way about everything, but some things.

I honestly think it has something to do with me being men.  I know that in this day and age it's politically incorrect to say that men and women are different, but I still think they are.  I just don't think that men are as attached to stuff as women are.  Emotionally, that is.  Many like their toys--be they tools or boat or cars or hiking equipment.  But they're not emotionally attached.  Well, maybe some are to their old cars.  But as a whole, no.  Women, on the other hand, usually are emotionally attached to a lot of things.  

I honestly think this is a good thing.  But it can be frustrating.😫

Compromise.  Remember he's tolerating your idiosyncrasies too.😉

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@geezerette 

Yes, he can be rather Vulcan at times...

[just bee]

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@Squirrel Lover wrote:

Friends, my husband just flew out from Texas and is home! Now he is quarantined for 14 days.

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@Squirrel Lover 

Great news!  That has to be such a relief!

[just bee]

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@aprilskies wrote:

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@geezerette wrote:

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@just bee wrote:

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@geezerette wrote:

@aprilskies 

Thank you for your kind wishes.❤️  I've been fighting the urge to be critical, which is my natural state.☺️  I know the situation wasn't as serious when he was exposed, but why did they have to go out anyway?  

But I'm seeing so many people that have been so judgmental of others for so long that are now continuing that and being totally unreasonable and unrealistic.  And being critical of the very people that they're now relying on for survival.  Yet they still don't see what they're doing.  So I'm trying to be a good girl.😇  (It's tough.😉)

I hope you and your parents are doing well.  I know it must be even more challenging for you now.  Please do remember to take time for yourself to decompress.  

I totally agree about being aware of all we have taken for granted.  I was raised by parents that endured many hardships, but I was fortunate enough to not have to go through any of those really tough times.  None of us have. 

Oddly, or perhaps not oddly, it just reinforces my opinion about having less but appreciating what I do have.  Finding out my basic priorities.  Not the dozens of things I've been told that should be important to me.  My choices.  

I might be wrong, but I think that having less in times like this would make it easier to deal with.  I don't really know why I feel this.  Having what I actually use and what I actually enjoy, instead of all the excess I seem to keep finding I still have.  

But that's just me.  I'm getting old. And I have a head full of pollen.🥴

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@geezerette 

I almost had him convinced.  And then he dropped it in the trash.

Could have donated it...  Hard case, that BH.

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@just bee 

True.

Well, that's my point.  It was his choice not to save either the picture or the frame.  Granted, it may have been nice if he had let you use the frame... 

I honestly think this is a good thing.  But it can be frustrating.😫

Compromise.  Remember he's tolerating your idiosyncrasies too.😉

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@geezerette

@just bee 

I will be lying if I said I didnt feel the same way as your DH.  Sometimes you just want things gone. I am starting to feel this more and more. I have been decluttering all along but just recently just took a whole bunch to the Salvation Army. I was relieved.  But, I just got in the donation before they closed, was it the right thing to do when I knew they would be closing, I dont know, but I am glad it is all gone. However, now that the donation centers are all closed, do I leave the next donation in a corner waiting for them to open or just toss the items? I know I will wait because something in me will not allow to toss but I am getting there especially if the centers are closed for months on end. 

@just bee, I think what is interesting about you and your DH is that you are two different personalities, as far as "stuff" goes, that made it work for so long. And truthfully, I wish I had someone here that can make those decisions.

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@aprilskies 

Check out Rent-a-Vulcan!

Truth be told, we watched episodes of Hoarders today.  I think that's his way of reminding me that we won't be filling up the house again.

Subtle as a sledgehammer.

[just bee]

Just saw that New Mexico has a new plate.

The plate features the artwork of Jazlyn Smith, a sixth-grade student from the Albuquerque Sign Language Academy. Smith’s depiction of a blanketflower and a sweat bee was chosen by a panel of judges.

A sweat bee?  Why a sweat bee?

I think I'll just keep my chile plate for now.

[just bee]

Okay, you've probably noticed that I was paranoid this morning about losing cable and Internet (even though BH had a Verizon backup plan) and went ahead with April's thread.

Eh, tutto è possibile!  Anything is possible with this move and I wouldn't be surprised if there's a Comcast issue.  If they can take TCM away from me, what else will they do?

You can either give up on March and just start posting on April's thread or we can finish out March here.  Or you can post on both threads.  Tutto è possibile!

But start thinking about adapting.  How you've adapted lately and how you plan to adapt in April and beyond.

[geezerette]

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@Squirrel Lover wrote:

Friends, my husband just flew out from Texas and is home! Now he is quarantined for 14 days.

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@Squirrel Lover 

Yay!!! 👏👍  I'm so happy to hear this for you!  

It's a good thing he's quarantined because I'm sure if there wasn't a decree, you wouldn't let him out of the house anyway!😉😄

This is just another example of how important the little things in life are.  We take just being together for granted.  

Now, long after this is all over when you again are frustrated with him for something, you need to remember how you feel right now.❤️

[geezerette]

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@aprilskies wrote:

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@geezerette wrote:

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@just bee wrote:

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@geezerette wrote:

@aprilskies 

Thank you for your kind wishes.❤️  I've been fighting the urge to be critical, which is my natural state.☺️  I know the situation wasn't as serious when he was exposed, but why did they have to go out anyway?  

But I'm seeing so many people that have been so judgmental of others for so long that are now continuing that and being totally unreasonable and unrealistic.  And being critical of the very people that they're now relying on for survival.  Yet they still don't see what they're doing.  So I'm trying to be a good girl.😇  (It's tough.😉)

I hope you and your parents are doing well.  I know it must be even more challenging for you now.  Please do remember to take time for yourself to decompress.  

I totally agree about being aware of all we have taken for granted.  I was raised by parents that endured many hardships, but I was fortunate enough to not have to go through any of those really tough times.  None of us have. 

Oddly, or perhaps not oddly, it just reinforces my opinion about having less but appreciating what I do have.  Finding out my basic priorities.  Not the dozens of things I've been told that should be important to me.  My choices.  

I might be wrong, but I think that having less in times like this would make it easier to deal with.  I don't really know why I feel this.  Having what I actually use and what I actually enjoy, instead of all the excess I seem to keep finding I still have.  

But that's just me.  I'm getting old. And I have a head full of pollen.🥴

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@geezerette 

I almost had him convinced.  And then he dropped it in the trash.

Could have donated it...  Hard case, that BH.

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@just bee 

True.

Well, that's my point.  It was his choice not to save either the picture or the frame.  Granted, it may have been nice if he had let you use the frame... 

I honestly think this is a good thing.  But it can be frustrating.😫

Compromise.  Remember he's tolerating your idiosyncrasies too.😉

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@geezerette

@just bee 

I will be lying if I said I didnt feel the same way as your DH.  Sometimes you just want things gone. I am starting to feel this more and more. I have been decluttering all along but just recently just took a whole bunch to the Salvation Army. I was relieved.  But, I just got in the donation before they closed, was it the right thing to do when I knew they would be closing, I dont know, but I am glad it is all gone. However, now that the donation centers are all closed, do I leave the next donation in a corner waiting for them to open or just toss the items? I know I will wait because something in me will not allow to toss but I am getting there especially if the centers are closed for months on end. 

@just bee, I think what is interesting about you and your DH is that you are two different personalities, as far as "stuff" goes, that made it work for so long. And truthfully, I wish I had someone here that can make those decisions.

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@aprilskies 

I know exactly how you feel @aprilskies . ❤️

[geezerette]

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@just bee wrote:

Okay, you've probably noticed that I was paranoid this morning about losing cable and Internet (even though BH had a Verizon backup plan) and went ahead with April's thread.

Eh, tutto è possibile!  Anything is possible with this move and I wouldn't be surprised if there's a Comcast issue.  If they can take TCM away from me, what else will they do?

You can either give up on March and just start posting on April's thread or we can finish out March here.  Or you can post on both threads.  Tutto è possibile!

But start thinking about adapting.  How you've adapted lately and how you plan to adapt in April and beyond.

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@just bee 

As much as I'd like to give up on March, I think I'll continue to reply to the previous threads right here.  When that's done, I'll move any new thoughts (and I have many) to the April thread.

But it all will have to wait a bit until later.  Got a few things to do first...🙃