Beauty

[Tique]

OP thanks for posting the link. I am going to forward it to friends who have teen daughters/granddaughters.

[goodstuff]

A clever video offering some pretty good advice. The approach would be useful for dealing with any kind of rude intrusiveness or bullying -- about makeup or otherwise. I couldn't help thinking that some of the people who are constantly wilting and expressing angst over bulletin board comments (rude, bullying, assertive, humorous, direct, whatever) could also benefit from the advice. Other peoples' unsolicited opinions just shouldn't rock your world all that much.

I'd also comment that just about everyone gets an uncalled-for comment about dress, makeup, etc. once in a while. However, if you're getting many such comments, you're either hanging out with total jerks or it may be time to back off and do an honest re-assessment of how you're presenting yourself to the world. Possibly your lipstick is garish and poorly applied!

[Trix]

I would not concern myself with feeling put down by compliment which I perceived was given in a veiled attempt to criticize. I usually feel confident enough about how I look and how well my makeup is applied that if (a woman) remarks on my choice of lipstick (for example,) I say thank you and assume she would like to know the color/brand.

The only way one can feel slightly hurt is if you were not confident about what you had on to begin with. My feeling is that if you wear it... OWN IT. If you can't do that then don't wear it. That theory goes for makeup and outfits.

[PurpleBunny]

On 2/24/2014 Beejene said:

Of course we can all wear as much make up as we want but don't we wear it because we feel we look better with it and enjoy it? That's why I wear it. With that being said, if someone made a comment about my lipstick (and it did happen to me a few years ago while at a house party) I knew it was a negative comment so I immediately said "oh, I just put some one without looking in the mirror!!! did I overdo it?" Thats what it was - and two grown men in their 50's said it. I would prefer to be told -hurt feelings or not. If people notice my makeup instead of my overall appearance then I'm doing something wrong and need to make some changes.

Maybe that's true in your case, but people notice my make-up because I do it well.

[Danielle46]

On 2/25/2014 PurpleBunny said:

On 2/24/2014 Beejene said:

Of course we can all wear as much make up as we want but don't we wear it because we feel we look better with it and enjoy it? That's why I wear it. With that being said, if someone made a comment about my lipstick (and it did happen to me a few years ago while at a house party) I knew it was a negative comment so I immediately said "oh, I just put some one without looking in the mirror!!! did I overdo it?" Thats what it was - and two grown men in their 50's said it. I would prefer to be told -hurt feelings or not. If people notice my makeup instead of my overall appearance then I'm doing something wrong and need to make some changes.

Maybe that's true in your case, but people notice my make-up because I do it well.

Actually, I'm very good at applying makeup and that was the first time I was ever criticized about it. My point being, I don't mind being told if something doesn't look great. I'm confident enough to want to know and not feel insulted.

[Pook]

Negative comments about makeup or anything else are just rude unless specifically asked for. What one person doesn't like others really do. It's personal choice and as long as anyone is happy with their look that's all that matters. I always get real complements on the way I do my makeup - especially my eyes and even if someone rudely criticized me it wouldn't matter. I would just say to them everyone can't like everything. I would sooner see someone with makeup on - no matter how it looks then to see a woman who has dry flaky skin, redness, eyes that look nonexistent, no eyebrows, etc and who could be benefited by makeup - BUT that is their choice and not mine to criticize. Everyone doesn't have to like makeup like I do.

[faeriemoon]

On 2/11/2014 gazelle77 said: If people comment about your makeup you are wearing too much. If they can not see your skin and only see makeup something is wrong.

This is exactly what I was going to say.

(Why does that scare me? )

[Tinkrbl44]

On 2/11/2014 gazelle77 said: If people comment about your makeup you are wearing too much. If they can not see your skin and only see makeup something is wrong.

I agree ..... the purpose of makeup is to enhance your best features, not to go clown face.

One thing I haven't seen here ...... there ARE women walking around that don't realize their bathroom lighting is not accurate.

They think they look great when applying it, but then they go out into daylight and it looks really awful. Maybe the OP's lighting is bad and she doesn't know it.

[Feline Fine]

""And you're speaking to me because...""

[NYC Susan]

On 2/24/2014 Brinklii said:

On 2/23/2014 upsidedown said:

I honestly can't recall anyone ever commenting on my makeup at all.....hope that's a good thing!

Nor can I. I just can't imagine anyone ever making a snide comment on someone else's makeup. Must be a new thing with the younger generation.

I've received compliments on lipstick shades and things like that, but otherwise I can't remember people commenting too much on my makeup. And no one has ever made fun of it. (Is that seriously a thing that grown adults do??) In fact, I don't recall ever hearing anyone be rude about anyone else's makeup. Ever. I work closely with people much younger than I am, and I don't hear it from them either. So I don't think it's a "younger generation" thing.

Honestly, sometimes I read posts on these forums and I wonder who people are choosing to spend their time with.