Re: Any one here with not so perfect complexion?

BRANDONLEE · ‎03-11-2010

On 1/25/2014 ForTheLuv said:
On 1/25/2014 Ireland said:
My skin isn't perfect. It isn't bad, but it certainly isn't perfect and yes, that does bother me sometimes. We are so much harder on ourselves than the rest of the world is, and I'm sure the vast majority of people aren't noticing the quality of everyone's skin.

Imagine a person saying, "So, tell me about BRANDONLEE" and the person who knows you starts out with, "Well, there is some minor acne scarring..." That doesn't sound like something a person would say. People notice personalities and overall appearance/health more than details. They just don't see what we see when we look in the mirror. I truly believe this. And because of this, everyone who is looking at you is also wondering what you are thinking about them and their skin, bad hair day, hairy arms, eye color, wrinkles, or whatever they stress about when they look in their own mirror. They are too busy worrying about their own imperfections to really notice yours.

Yes, but that is kind of what she was trying to say, because someone pointed out the scarring on Kenya. People DO do this, and it is VERY apparent by the incessant commentary on these boards. Anyone who reads them would walk away feeling insecure in their appearance, knowing what SO MANY people on these boards says and thinks about other women. They all judge so harshly and rudely and feel they are experts in regard to all things beauty. Isn't that apparent by all the comments about Lisa or shawn or the others? They SHOULD do this or they should do that they need to change their hair or they stand wrong or the crevices of their nails are discolored. I mean come on already. If people notice every LITTLE detail about others, you mean to tell me this woman has no reason to think that people do not notice her acne scarring??????

Brandonlee: yes people notice, and I know why it bothers you. But as some have said, you just need to get right within yourself and try hard not to let what others think and feel bother you. There ARE options. I know you have heard bad things about lasers, but there are also many people who have had GOOD responses to them. They can REALLY help. Especially if your scarring is so light, I think you could really get good results. I wish you all the best and keep your chin up. There IS hope. Don't give up and get out there and do what you need to do to get rid of them...or learn to live with them...whichever you choose.

There is a procedure where the derm can give you a strong acid that treats JUST the scars too. If that works, you could then look into a whole face treatment to smooth the entire complexion and make it more even. There ARE options. Best of luck.

Thanks fortheluv... That is exactly right. I read comments all the time on women talking about other women's complexions ALL THE TIME.And of course i then start to feel bad about myself.As far as lasers i have done so much researched and read so much on it that it will not work for me.I just went through this past summer doing dermapen i had 6 treatments and i was promised results,well NOTHING,NADA ZILCH.So i don't think i will spend any more money which i have already.I will just live with them .And yes its the women who judge.

Beauty$Junkie · ‎05-14-2010

I found a posting on Pinterest for a mask using turmeric and plain yogurt that is suppose to reduce swelling and have so many wonderful benefits to skin. I plan to try it soon. You may want to check it out.

Ireland · ‎03-11-2010

Well, I'm sorry my post wasn't more helpful. ForTheLuv missed a key point in my post, which is odd since she even bolded that part. I said "the person who knows you..." People who know you and care about you aren't judging your skin, and if they are, you need a better class of friends. People in the public eye are judged all the time, thus the comments on the hosts at QVC and celebrities, etc. If you are concerned that everyone, everywhere is looking that closely at your skin, then just ignore what I posted.

happycat · ‎09-18-2010

I have some scars also, and large pores on my nose. I also have 2 small scars on my nose that my dermatologist has lasered, they are better but they are still there. I think we all have issues. To top it all off, I have gained 7 lbs since Thanksgiving!

BRANDONLEE · ‎03-11-2010

On 1/25/2014 Ireland said:
Well, I'm sorry my post wasn't more helpful. ForTheLuv missed a key point in my post, which is odd since she even bolded that part. I said "the person who knows you..." People who know you and care about you aren't judging your skin, and if they are, you need a better class of friends. People in the public eye are judged all the time, thus the comments on the hosts at QVC and celebrities, etc. If you are concerned that everyone, everywhere is looking that closely at your skin, then just ignore what I posted.

Oh no Ireland i understood your post,you are right my friends and close one's would never judge.I think its basically that even your friends can notice but would never make you feel unattractive.Yes you are right people in the public eye are judged.But they are judged by WOMEN.

Rissa98 · ‎10-18-2013

I have vitiligo. Talk about a real pain in the rear. My face is basically white with about 17 small pigmented spots. They are really tough to cover up. I was a medium, olive toned skin type before this occurred. Oh yeah, due to age I have large pores and crow's feet on one side of my face. Most people do not have perfect skin. Hopefully we teach our children what to do (sunscreen) and what not to do.

just bee · ‎03-10-2010

On 1/25/2014 Mishell5 said:
On 1/25/2014 MarenSeattle said:
On 1/25/2014 myshell624 said:
I It is society that makes us focus on every little flaw.

Especially our culture. You see men and women from other countries that haven't been pulled and tucked and altered. I look at the British actors, French and Italian icons -- they've let themselves be who they are and age gracefully. In America, we'd think they "let themselves go"! Infuriates me, yet I get caught up in the brainwashing.

That is so true. I have so noticed that about the British actors/actresses. It's all about the acting, not their looks...Gee..what a concept! LOL! But i also get caught up in the brainwashing as well. It is hard not to.

Michelle

It always reminds me of a certain Welshman who had "terrible" skin and married the world's most beautiful Englishwoman -- twice. Wink

Their "flaws" really had little to do with their looks.

~My philosophy: Dogs are God's most perfect creatures. Angels, here on Earth, who teach us to be better human beings.~

PhatCat · ‎03-10-2010

On 1/26/2014 Rissa98 said:
I have vitiligo. Talk about a real pain in the rear. My face is basically white with about 17 small pigmented spots. They are really tough to cover up. I was a medium, olive toned skin type before this occurred. Oh yeah, due to age I have large pores and crow's feet on one side of my face. Most people do not have perfect skin. Hopefully we teach our children what to do (sunscreen) and what not to do.

Rissa, I have vitiligo too. So far the armpits are totally white and going down the trunk here and there. A couple of white spots on my upper thighs and the corners of my lips are white. How long did it take before it got to your face? I am thinking it wont be long since its starting on my lips.

thanks!

Dylansmom90 · ‎01-16-2014

I wish I had perfect skin. So you are not alone. I have a face full of clogged pores. I have to get regular facials just to keep it under control. I have acne prone oily skin as well. Makeup does help but I try not to wear too much so my acne doesn't flare up.