Why Bother? I Don't Understand ...

RinaRina · ‎03-13-2010

I don't understand some people. Remember this?

https://community.qvc.com/t5/Among-Friends/Would-YOU-Apologize/td-p/3747467

If you don't, the short version is below ...

My neighbor's diseased old trees fall in my yard and each time, he expects my insurance to cover it. The first time, I covered because I didn't know any better. But the 2nd time, NO! Because I found out what the law is ---

HIS insurance co. found him negligent and covered my damage.

WHY did he send me an email advising me that he has cleaned up the "weather-related" damage in HIS yard. The email states he has cut back his trees and branches.

Well, duhhhhh! We HAD this discussion BEFORE the tree fell AGAIN.

OMG!

It's as if HIS insurance didn't tell him, THEY did an investigation and HE was at fault.

Trimming back your sick, half-dead trees after-the-fact doesn't erase the inconvenience I've had to go thru to fix my damages .. to my house, my yard, replacing my fence, shed, etc.

I don't understand some people. Is he just "needling" me on purpose?

Or is he really this inconsiderate?

Why bother irritating a sore wound that hasn't healed.

"The less you respond to negative people, the more peaceful your life will become."

makena · ‎10-29-2016

Maybe he's just letting you know he's trying to stay on top of things. It'ss just a informative email.

Were you friends? I'm guessing you were because you have each other's email addresses.

TeezNu · ‎03-10-2010

@RinaRina wrote:
I don't understand some people. Remember this?

https://community.qvc.com/t5/Among-Friends/Would-YOU-Apologize/td-p/3747467

If you don't, the short version is below ...
My neighbor's diseased old trees fall in my yard and each time, he expects my insurance to cover it. The first time, I covered because I didn't know any better. But the 2nd time, NO! Because I found out what the law is ---
HIS insurance co. found him negligent and covered my damage.
WHY did he send me an email advising me that he has cleaned up the "weather-related" damage in HIS yard. The email states he has cut back his trees and branches.
Well, duhhhhh! We HAD this discussion BEFORE the tree fell AGAIN.
OMG!
It's as if HIS insurance didn't tell him, THEY did an investigation and HE was at fault.
Trimming back your sick, half-dead trees after-the-fact doesn't erase the inconvenience I've had to go thru to fix my damages .. to my house, my yard, replacing my fence, shed, etc.
I don't understand some people. Is he just "needling" me on purpose?
Or is he really this inconsiderate?
Why bother irritating a sore wound that hasn't healed.

Of course, I'm just speculating, but I don't think he is needling you, or being inconsiderate. I suspect he is DOCUMENTING, via his email to you, that he has completed the work that caused the problem, or that might create any new issues in the near future. Therefore, if you or your insurance company try to come back at him, he will have this documentation. If you disagree with the statement in his email, you should respond via email to document your position. Pictures would be helpful, too.

“There are two ways to be rich: One is by acquiring much, and the other is by desiring little.” —Jackie French Koller

gizmogal · ‎05-09-2014

I'm guessing your neighbor wrote that email for purely self-serving purposes. His insurance company probably demanded that he clean up the dead tree or any potential causes of damage to your property to prevent another claim from you.

He doesn't want to make an effort or really make sure damage is prevented, but he wants to provide "documentation " that cleanup is underway and that he is trying to avoid another incident. I have no doubt he sent a blind copy of the email to the insurance company adjuster or agent.

if he cared about your wounds, irritations or inconvenience, he would have prevented damage to your property in the first place. So he couldn't care about reopening any wounds. The email wasn't intended to make you feel bad or good. It's about him and his insurance company. They will raise his premium if he doesn't attend to the risk. Insurance companies will cover occurrences, but do not allow ongoing negligence in their dime. So now he has an email to show he's working hard on cleanup. It's not about you. It's all about him.

RinaRina · ‎03-13-2010

@gizmogal wrote:
I'm guessing your neighbor wrote that email for purely self-serving purposes. His insurance company probably demanded that he clean up the dead tree or any potential causes of damage to your property to prevent another claim from you.

So now he has an email to show he's working hard on cleanup. It's not about you. It's all about him.

Just what I thought. Same as the email .. it's all about him. I thought it was strange. Now, I understand what the real point of the email was.

Thanks.

"The less you respond to negative people, the more peaceful your life will become."

Plaid Pants2 · ‎03-14-2015

In a word, documentation.

He now has proof that you were notified, in writing, that he is taking care of the problem, should you try to sue him again.

And he most likely sent a copy of the email to his insurance company, so they know that you know that he is taking care of the problem, should you try to sue him again.

RinaRina · ‎03-13-2010

@makena wrote:
Maybe he's just letting you know he's trying to stay on top of things. It'ss just a informative email.

Were you friends? I'm guessing you were because you have each other's email addresses.

Yes, we were -- sort of. His daughter lives next door and I let his grandchildren play in my back yard.

When the branches started falling (BIG ONES!), I got scared, and for the safety of his grandkids (as well as myself) told him and his daughter they needed to tend to the trees.

They did NOTHING. So, now they don't speak to me.

@Oh well ... if they want to act like @$$es about it, then that's on them.

We all suffered because of his indifference. But I guess they don't see it that way.

I'm just stunned at his bad manners. He never offered even an apology despite the problem being ongoing for years.

"The less you respond to negative people, the more peaceful your life will become."

makena · ‎10-29-2016

@RinaRina wrote:
@makena wrote:
Maybe he's just letting you know he's trying to stay on top of things. It'ss just a informative email.

Were you friends? I'm guessing you were because you have each other's email addresses.
Yes, we were -- sort of. His daughter lives next door and I let his grandchildren play in my back yard.
When the branches started falling (BIG ONES!), I got scared, and for the safety of his grandkids (as well as myself) told him and his daughter they needed to tend to the trees.
They did NOTHING. So, now they don't speak to me.
@Oh well ... if they want to act like @$$es about it, then that's on them.
We all suffered because of his indifference. But I guess they don't see it that way.
I'm just stunned at his bad manners. He never offered even an apology despite the problem being ongoing for years.

For some people an apology is admitting being wrong, and people don't like to do that. Others just believe they have nothing to apologize for -- it's beneath them.

RinaRina · ‎03-13-2010

@makena wrote:

For some people an apology is admitting being wrong, and people don't like to do that. Others just believe they have nothing to apologize for -- it's beneath them.

That's what I'm thinking ...
He thinks this whole thing is "beneath him", including me.
Sad, he's teaching his adult children and grandchildren such bad manners.
There's an old saying:
"There are some things that money cannot buy, like manners, morals, & class."