Re: What would you do?

RedTop · ‎09-01-2010

This situation got creepy for me as soon as the neighbor started coming over every day; I would have put a stop to that immediately. A hug? NO. A kiss? Hell NO!

Helping get your husband back in bed was a very nice thing, as well as carrying your trash cans back to the house. I see those as the kindnesses you appreciate in a good neighbor. Everything else you mentioned is just creepy and makes me think this neighbor is too willing to comfort the widow next door.

I would be glad they are not speaking to me!

AKgirl2 · ‎05-24-2016

@Catty2 wrote:
I think he was out of line to expect a hug and kiss. It was very nice of him to help you around the house, but he should respect that it's your house and not to enter the yard or house without your permission. Wonder if his wife knows he was expecting a hug and kiss from you every time. You did the right thing.

I bet his wife is unaware about a lot of things with him...he's a snake!

jaxs mom · ‎04-18-2012

Be grateful they aren't talking to you. He's been completely inappropriate with you. He isn't respecting your personal space or your privacy. Honestly it sounds like grooming behavior to me, like what pedophiles and abusers do to get people to feel in their debt. And I'm not the type that sees a bad motivation in every good deed. Not by a long shot. But this guy, yes. I'd keep my doors locked at all times, consider moving or getting a nice big unfriendly guard dog. It's never ok for him to ask you for hugs because he did something for you. The wife having arthritis is not even anywhere near acceptable for his claims to want a hug. He's a creep.

Don't Change Your Authenticity for Approval

BalletBabe · ‎03-05-2011

@chickenbutt love that name. No it made me cringe. HIs hugs and kisses were getting longer and longer and I even backed way and I thought for sure when I didn't answer the door , he would get the hint. I just felt like he was taking over or trying to. He wanted to take me to the cemetary, he can't drive legally blind, but his wife is on Oxycontin. There was no way I was getting in the car with either one of them.

missy1 · ‎03-10-2010

Be happy he isn't bothering you. Sorry about your dh.

Isobel Archer · ‎04-04-2015

I'm sorry about your husband.

As to your neighbor, if they are no longer speaking to you, then apparently he is no longer bothering you. So, at this point, I would do nothing.

It seems he is needy for affection and he definitely got the wrong idea as to your intentions - but you have made that clear and he is now leaving you alone. So while I know it is upsetting, I'm not sure there is anything you can do now other than let time pass.

BalletBabe · ‎03-05-2011

@ Jax Yes it still creeps me out. I am not comfortable in my front yard anymore. If I talk to another neighbor, he is out pretending to do yard work. Worst part is this guy looks like Frankenstine---lol

BalletBabe · ‎03-05-2011

Thanks everyone for all the sympathy. I just needed to talk about it. I think this started before my husband death. I broke my knee cap in half about 5 years ago ad I walked everyday and he just happened to be out watering everyday. I stopped walking and saw him no more out at that time. Things are just starting to click if you know what I mean.

debic · ‎09-02-2010

@BalletBabe wrote:
@ Q4U Several said that I should have called police. Ironically one of my neighbors had not seen me out for a few days. The following Sunday I had a migraine , so I went to bed. I hear this banging on my door at noon and a consistant ringing of my doorbell. I ignored it and finally it stopped. At 1:00 it started again, so I get up and look out and I see police car. I am like wth is going on? So I grab a robe and answer and he says, we were notified that no one has seen you in several days? I said officr I don't know what your talking about. I was with two of my neighbors all day yesterday. They took me to the cemetary. So I asked him to come in and told him this story. He said if he shows up again CALLL US AND WE WILL REMOVE HIM. I was like you bet I will

I also was so creeped out I forgot to say how sorry I am for your loss.

I'm glad the police have a report and your family is aware. I have no doubt the man was stalking you, working up to more than 'hugs' What a pig to even ask for a hug let alone a kiss.

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*Off The Deep End~A very short trip for some!*

AKgirl2 · ‎05-24-2016

@BalletBabe wrote:
I think he was out of line to expect a hug and kiss. It was very nice of him to help you around the house, but he should respect that it's your house and not to enter the yard or house without your permission. Wonder if his wife knows he was expecting a hug and kiss from you every time. You did the right thing

@Catty No she didn't know. I asked her when I called if she knew he was over here and she said no. I didn't tell her he wanted hugs and kisses, cause I didn't want in the middle of that. She sleeps a lot. On a lot of meds. My son said Mom he is stalking you. It was creepy!

He is a creep and a leech...you should have your son have a talk with him to straighten him out. I know my son would. there's no reason why you should feel uncomfortable in or outside of your property...don't let this lowlife intimidate you.