my mother's friend would butt in quite often regarding mother's life, health, her surgeries, her post-surg rehab stays, medical appointments, the pandemic, on and on.
was always astonished that ____would be telling me what to do and basically saying i was a bad daughter. i also had my own health issues (started w my own surgeries years before mom's) .
___would phone me and txt long messages. when we spoke she would be overbearing and intrusive. one time ___ ordered a rollator from Amazon for mom and the minute she saw it was delivered called us to make sure i was immediately assembling the thing.
mentioned all these communiques to mother and she just shrugged. shook her head. i mean, this woman was HER friend, and it would have been best to have a conversation with HER FRIEND to say my daughter is helping me as much as possible. i knew of this friend but we had rarely interacted in the past.
was difficult dealing with ___ for years until mother relocated. my personal feeling is this friend had a poor connection to her own mother for a number of reasons. maybe it was her way of compensating?