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[qualitygal]

Keep this in mind, with my memory as it is now........if we change a lot of stuff it's not good. Take the grocery store for instance.  In the whole big store, to have to find what was, and find where it is now...well, that's a change a lot of people don't like.  

Or people who use to be physically independent, no longer are, that change is no fun.  Or to be strong in legs and back, and no longer am that way.  

That's the kind of thing, at this age, we see "change" about.

[MalteseMomma]

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@haddon9 wrote:

Depends on what's being changed.  Makes a huge difference!

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Excellent reply @haddon9     why didn't I think of that.............lol

[chrystaltree]

Change is good.  I know that some older people don't like change but I think that just comes with age.  At 57,  I don't have  that  "everything was better in the old days"  mentality.  Change is going to happen anyway, whether we like it or not. 

[2blonde]

@Annabellethecat66  That's the hard part about two people loving each other.  Eventually, one will have to leave, and one will be left behind.

I'd like to send some good wishes your way, if I may.  I read something recently that's similar to what you are saying, and I've been repeating it to myself over and over.  "Choose to be happy."  It really is that simple once you've put your life in God's hands.   

[Annabellethecat66]

@2blonde That's what I do.  However, I also give myself permission to be sad and introspective...at times.  I don't dwell on missing my husband, but I have enough sense to realize it's OK to be sad sometimes....the anniversary (for want of a better word) on his birthday, the day he died, and our wedding anniversary brings back many memories.

I've written much of it down for my children and grandchildren (maybe even my great-grandchildren one day) so they can understand what it is to be so in love with your true sole-mate and mourn his or her loss.  

We really were soul mates.  We were born on opposites sides of the country (6 months apart).  Yet we have the same middle name, almost identical social security numbers, the same blood type (which is a little rare) and several other things that are similar.  We met and married within 3 months.  It would have been sooner but we couldn't get the church earlier nor could he get the time off.

I had another boyfriend at the time and he'd just broken up with his girlfriend.

[ECBG]

@Annabellethecat66Thank you Love.  I'lll email you.  Hope you had a day filled with beauty.

[silkyk]

[chiclets]

Change is unavoidable, it is always there.

They say what was old is new again, and so I wait for that simple on and off switch to return. That would be a change I could easily deal with.

[blackhole99]

We have very little control over anything outside of our own microcosm and sometime not even that. I don't mind change if it's for the better.

[SeaMaiden]

@CherryHugs  I do not like change.  But, when something upsets my schedule or routine, I try to view it as an inconvenience and just get over it.  Life is full of inconveniences.