What Should I Do?

SeaMaiden · ‎03-10-2010

So here is the situation. Married 40 years.

I want to get my front teeth done with veneers. Cost is about $10,000. My teeth look old...yellow, have cracks down my two front teeth....I do not want to smile because of it. I am self conscious....

When I bring the idea up with. DH, he says...."that's a lot of money".

Of course it is a lot of money. I want to do it for myself. I am 64. Still want to feel good about myself.

We have the money.

What do I say to him to be on board with this idea?

I know I can just do it....

but, I want HIM to say " Do It! If it makes you feel better, Do it!"

camelot · ‎03-06-2017

Find a compromise. Do you have a dental school nearby? They do dental work at much less than a private DDS. They do good work.

goldensrbest · ‎03-10-2010

It is alot of money,i would have to just not have it done.

When you lose some one you L~O~V~E, that Memory of them, becomes a TREASURE.

NickNack · ‎03-10-2010

That's too much money for me to even consider.

The Bluebird Carries The Sky On His Back"
-Henry David Thoreau

MoonieBaby · ‎07-19-2013

I have to admit - money invested in our overall well being is just that - an investment that immediately GIVES US A RETURN ON OUR MONEY, please continue to have meaningful chats with your "not yet convinced" husband.

Try to make him realize the huge benefit - but to that end also confer with your dentist about a cheaper, yet just as effective alternative.

Perhaps there is a solution that would require less out of pocket and give you a beautiful and shiny happy smile - one you'll be proud to show "MUPPET STYLE" ear to ear!!!!

Good Luck....and be patient. It will work out for you soon enough.

Free2be · ‎03-10-2010

That expense is exhorbitantly criminal, imo. The dental school idea is a good one. A lot of people, and I mean a LOT of people go across the border into Mexico for good dental care. Sad to say, but a fact. Worth looking into for a fraction of the cost.

Puppy Lips · ‎05-09-2010

I am lucky in that I think my husband would tell me to go ahead and do it, even if we did not have the money.

I think for him to be on board, he would have to understand how your current dental situation makes you feel. I think in general, men don't really care about their appearance as much as women do. If you really are unhappy, then do it. You have many good years ahead of you.

Maybe once he sees how happy you are, and how often you smile, after the procedure, he will finally get it. Good luck to you!

Always remember that you are absolutely unique. Just like everyone else. Margaret Mead

wishmoon · ‎08-14-2013

Explain your reasoning. He doesn't understand, he sees you as beautiful (be happy) but what you see yourself as is important. Tell him that you'd love to "just" smile and not worry about ppl seeing your teeth. Everyone wants to share a smile.

Good luck!

nanny24 · ‎04-06-2010

I would totally get it done if it would make you feel good about yourself. I had a procedure done about 10 years ago that I wanted a for a long time. My hubby was totally on board, and I have never regretted it. Life is short, and even though it is a lot of $$$, you said you have it, so go for it!! I hope you get it done and totally love the result!!

Ruby Laine · ‎05-25-2016

I say go for it. You will be so glad that you did! Maybe your husband never will say it's a great idea, but that's ok. He didn't say, "What are you thinking?! No way!" It is a lot of money, but it's more important that you don't feel self-conscious anymore. I bet he ends up being glad you did it, too, just because it makes you happy.