Among Friends

[Luvsmyfam]

well,I just got a txt back.shes angy I can tell.her txt read,I'll send a ck in the mail.no,im sorry I forgot,just ill send. In mail.omg ,this is turning into I am the bad person here.

[Effie54]

It'san upsetting situation, but next time just buy your own gift. I'm too uncomfortable going in on a gift with other people, having to ask them for money for it. I've always just bought my own gift in it I've been happy that way.

[kitcat51]

Did you text a few hours ago or has it been longer? Sometimes it takes me a day to get back with anybody including family unless it's an emergency. You seem stressed but you didn't do anything wrong sending a reminder & I'm sure it will all work out with no hard feelings....stay positive @Luvsmyfam.

[RedTop]

I get the total picture here, and can relate; been there, done that.  

However, for me personally I would let it go; the money is never worth the angst it creates, and it's never been the hill I want to die on.

I HATE family drama and refuse to make, or add to any.   

[Annabellethecat66]

Here's what I think (which means zip...I realize).

I think it's evolved to where you have to decide how important it is to you to get the money from your sister-in-law or just write off the money and move on.

The next time (if there is a next time) you should get the money up front.

Just forget about it.  Consider it a lesson learned.

[Kachina624]

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@Luvsmyfam wrote:

well,I just got a txt back.shes angy I can tell.her txt read,I'll send a ck in the mail.no,im sorry I forgot,just ill send. In mail.omg ,this is turning into I am the bad person here.

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@Luvsmyfam    You know you didn't do anything wrong so don't let her lay on the guilt.  Cash her check, if and when it arrives, and move on and forget it.  Just don't let her owe you money again. 

[Luvsmyfam]

no,it wasn't a few hrs,and yes,something could have came up with her.i guess damage is done.no one needs family drama in their life.we are having a big family picture taken in august.of course her and my brother will be there.gosh,I have such a pit in my stomach right now.i have to admit,it's nice having a place to share feelings good or bad.

Thank you all

[tessam]

My response to the text would be,  Thanks!  I appreciate it.  I'll pop you a notewhen it arrives.

Then put it all behind you.  It just is not worth it.

Hope the shower was lovely!

[pugvette74]

It was from HER too... She should pay. No questions about it. Don't you feel bad. YOU did nothing wrong. Give it a couple of days and see how you feel about it. Not worth the stress. 

[kitcat51]

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@Luvsmyfam wrote:

no,it wasn't a few hrs,and yes,something could have came up with her.i guess damage is done.no one needs family drama in their life.we are having a big family picture taken in august.of course her and my brother will be there.gosh,I have such a pit in my stomach right now.i have to admit,it's nice having a place to share feelings good or bad.

Thank you all

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You're upset & her short reply may not mean she's  mad...my text are always short & to the point. Her apology may come with the check so take a wait & see attitude....if it doesn't just cash the check & forget about it knowing you did nothing wrong. Be well @Luvsmyfam.