WENT TO MY PARENTS

Luvsmyfam · ‎11-26-2019

Had a late lunch,early supper at my parents house today.When ever I walk into their home,I immediately feel their love for me and all the family.Its so comforting there.We chatted about this last Christmas,and that this was the last yr they are having all of us christmas eve.Now I'm not sure how I feel about this,but I know how hard it is on them to have all five kids,grandkids,boyfriends and everyone else to their home. My sister always has Thanksgiving,and my home is way to small for everyone.I suggested renting a hall,but my mom said bringing in all that food is hard work(mom is 85 dad is 87)I don't know what the answer is to this.Anyway,I was glad to go over there

PrettyGerl · ‎04-14-2015

Why don't you bring your parents to your place? And prepare a nice meal for them, make a fuss over them. Just because. Whenever, no holiday required. You can invite no one else or whomever else. Did this all the time with my elderly parents before their passing.

shoesnbags · ‎03-10-2010

@Luvsmyfam wrote:
Had a late lunch,early supper at my parents house today.When ever I walk into their home,I immediately feel their love for me and all the family.Its so comforting there.We chatted about this last Christmas,and that this was the last yr they are having all of us christmas eve.Now I'm not sure how I feel about this,but I know how hard it is on them to have all five kids,grandkids,boyfriends and everyone else to their home. My sister always has Thanksgiving,and my home is way to small for everyone.I suggested renting a hall,but my mom said bringing in all that food is hard work(mom is 85 dad is 87)I don't know what the answer is to this.Anyway,I was glad to go over there

@Luvsmyfam

Ye gads! Your mom is 85 and has still been hosting all of you at Christmas. She should be sitting the whole time, while the younger generations prepare, serve and clean-up. Leave her house spic and span when it's all over. No hall, just everyone pitching in and doing the work instead of your mom and dad.

"Breathe in, breathe out, move on." Jimmy Buffett

Still Raining · ‎03-30-2014

How absolutely wonderful all of you got together. I think none of us ever thought there would be an end. You kids will find a way.

PrettyGerl · ‎04-14-2015

@shoesnbags wrote:
@Luvsmyfam wrote:
Had a late lunch,early supper at my parents house today.When ever I walk into their home,I immediately feel their love for me and all the family.Its so comforting there.We chatted about this last Christmas,and that this was the last yr they are having all of us christmas eve.Now I'm not sure how I feel about this,but I know how hard it is on them to have all five kids,grandkids,boyfriends and everyone else to their home. My sister always has Thanksgiving,and my home is way to small for everyone.I suggested renting a hall,but my mom said bringing in all that food is hard work(mom is 85 dad is 87)I don't know what the answer is to this.Anyway,I was glad to go over there
@Luvsmyfam
Ye gads! Your mom is 85 and has still been hosting all of you at Christmas. She should be sitting the whole time, while the younger generations prepare, serve and clean-up. Leave her house spic and span when it's all over. No hall, just everyone pitching in and doing the work instead of your mom and dad.

Absolutely! I cannot even imagine everyone not doing everything possible to make the parents holiday as wonderful and stress free as possible. The shouldn't have to lift a finger. I don't' understand...

PrettyGerl · ‎04-14-2015

@Still Raining wrote:
How absolutely wonderful all of you got together. I think none of us ever thought there would be an end. You kids will find a way.

OP is in her late 60's. She was complaining couple days ago about going to her parents. Too boring.

ECBG · ‎01-08-2011

Can you help your mom do the pre prep and help her get what ever in the oven?

It's likely she just can't do it all without help.

While the meat is cooking, you could set the tables or whatever to help.

spumoni99 · ‎02-16-2019

You could have it at your parents house since they have the room but you and your siblings should be doing all the work, its a shame she has done it this long and had to advocate for herself. I took over all the cooking when I was 25 and my mom was in her late 50's.

I still do all the cooking at 62 but I sure won't be doing it till 85 if I last that long! I would be embarrased to admit I let my mom do that!

PrettyGerl · ‎04-14-2015

@spumoni99 wrote:
You could have it at your parents house since they have the room but you and your siblings should be doing all the work, its a shame she has done it this long and had to advocate for herself. I took over all the cooking when I was 25 and my mom was in her late 50's.

I still do all the cooking at 62 but I sure won't be doing it till 85 if I last that long! I would be embarrased to admit I let my mom do that!

So true what you conveyed. And to say "don't know how to feel" when told hosting won't be happening next year. How about "feeling" like everyone making things as easy as possible for the parents. Cooking, cleaning, inviting them out to eat. And to their places of residence. A million things can show, demonstrate love and appreciation.