Two "grabs" today

qualitygal · ‎10-04-2010

First, "gift grab", I didn't know this term, didn't read past conversations on it, and now, "Money grab". Sure is a lot of grabbing going on. LOL

151949 · ‎03-09-2010

huh?

seaBreeze · ‎02-04-2014

The graduation announcements are never ending this year .... I call that a 'money grab' since these relative's children live on the other side of the continent, and I have only met them once or twice.

sunshine45 · ‎03-09-2010

i have never used either of these terms, will never use them, and had never heard of them until the numerous threads on these forums, especially around wedding/graduation time.

i have also never heard of "covering the cost of your plate" for a wedding.

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151949 · ‎03-09-2010

My father was one of 16 children. I have 52 first cousins. Many of them I've never met in my life,nor their children. However, I am very familiar with the "gift grab" invitation. Not so much graduations - but definately weddings.

queendiva · ‎03-12-2010

My take on graduation announcements: for most graduations: there is a limit of two to four guests who can receive tickets to an indoor venue. That often does not cover the attendance of the immediate family let alone proud grandparents. Announcements may be the only way to share the good news.

When my sons graduated from HS, we invited a very small number of closest family members to the graduations, followed by a special dinner in a nice local restaurant with special custom menu to celebrate the event. That was each son's preference over a party with friends and family. No announcements sent even though both boys received multiple awards and scholarships.

College graduations were in a neighboring state. Only parents and siblings attended. I sent photo graduation announcements to immediate family. Some live near, some far. None were sent to friends, neighbors or co-workers. Announcements showed the date of graduation, college, major and in this case both graduated Magna ****** Laude. No parties were held. Some sent checks, some sent nothing- no acknowledgement of their nephew's college graduation.

IMO a card and words of praise should be sent and is always appreciated by the grad and his or her parents, no matter if they are friends or family. Money Grab and Gift grab exist, especially at this time of year. All depends on the circumstances and your relationship with the grad/bride/groom and his or her family. Always OK to send a card of congrats and your best wishes. It's not the IRS- don't send money or a gift if you can't or wish not to..

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

@seaBreeze wrote:
The graduation announcements are never ending this year .... I call that a 'money grab' since these relative's children live on the other side of the continent, and I have only met them once or twice.

Oh, yeah. That's a gift grab. I'd send a card and be done with it.

cherib · ‎08-01-2016

I sent graduation announcements to my far-away relatives when my children graduated high school. Just wanted to share our news and was not expecting to receive a gift or card in exchange. If you think if an announcement or invitation as a "money grab" perhaps you should just toss it and forget about it.

Mominohio · ‎08-08-2010

@cherib wrote:
I sent graduation announcements to my far-away relatives when my children graduated high school. Just wanted to share our news and was not expecting to receive a gift or card in exchange. If you think if an announcement or invitation as a "money grab" perhaps you should just toss it and forget about it.

We had a big open house for my son's high school graduation. We sent invitations/announcements to the event to many friends and relatives. We stated gifts weren't necessary. We had at least 40 people come, enjoy a beautiful day in the country (outside games, fishing), great food, and wonderful visiting with people we don't get to see nearly enough.

If people considered that a gift or a money 'grab' I feel sorry for them, because we had a great time, (and more than one person attended without any gift or money, and were just as welcome as the others).