Re: Too many invites

qualitygal · ‎10-04-2010

Make a monitary donation for each one, to something they might believe in. You choose the amount and they don't need to know the amount. There's so many things that would love a donation.

Even food banks, let others do the usual, be unique.

Imaoldhippie · ‎06-10-2015

IMO the whole gift giving is out of control and has gotten greedy. I have heard of wedding invites that want contributions toward the couple buying a house! What??!!

No way, let them live in an apartment or rent a small house til they SAVE enough to buy it on their own.

This needs to stop and it will only stop when the invited people put the brakes on.

LIFE IS TO SHORT TOO FOLD FITTED SHEETS

CalminHeart · ‎03-09-2010

Just because I get an invitation doesn't mean I have to send a gift. Prioritize gifts for special loved ones and send cards to the others.

I don't always buy from registries. I will look but won't buy if I can't afford what they registered. I buy what I want to give. They can donate or throw it away if they want.

I have always been a people pleaser. When I retired, I decided I didn't have to do that anymore. My backbone got stronger.

teganslaw · ‎03-11-2010

I would only attend if I could or was close to the family. Relatives or grand kids of friends don't count as being close. Out of the question to give gifts to everyone. If anyone thinks you're cheap because you can't afford to give at or attend all the invitations that's their problem. Not very good friends if that would be their thought.

"The more I learn about people, the more I like my dog."

Mark Twain

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

@CalminHeart You are so spot on with this! And it gave me an idea. If they are registered, pick the item in your budget and send a gift card for that amount saying "I saw your registry and am sending you this gift card, so you can enjoy an item of your choice or something else entirely."

Easier, thoughtful, and a card and stamp and you're done. Or you can do gift cards online. People move, people get married and already have stuff--two households marry--it's different now.

@CalminHeart wrote:

Just because I get an invitation doesn't mean I have to send a gift. Prioritize gifts for special loved ones and send cards to the others.

I don't always buy from registries. I will look but won't buy if I can't afford what they registered. I buy what I want to give. They can donate or throw it away if they want.

I have always been a people pleaser. When I retired, I decided I didn't have to do that anymore. My backbone got stronger.

RetRN · ‎10-01-2013

@Trailrun23, that is a lot of invites. I assume it is an anomaly and you aren't always getting so many in a short span of time. I would have to prioritize and gift as my budget allows. I think just sending a card to acknowledge an occassion is sometimes enough.

Regal Bee · ‎07-20-2017

When we receive invites, we send what we choose. We don't allow 'so called rules' to apply to us. This whole gift giving business is totally out of hand, in my opinion, especially when the invite states how the person wants the gift issued to them. Crazy. Not going there.

qualitygal · ‎10-04-2010

I'm KIDDING on this but after reading these, I'd want to send a card, "checked out your registery list and wouldn't send anything off of it to you". Here's a certificate, try this place for this amount and see what you come up with. I get so tired of this stuff.

San Antonio Gal · ‎05-18-2017

@Trailrun23 - For a gift, you can purchase a pretty picture frame for less than 20.00. Wrap it in pretty paper with a card wishing them the best.

KKlim · ‎06-20-2015

I think it might be where u live in the country. I live in metro NY. People here buy from registries or give cash that’s equal to a plate. A standard wedding here for 2 people to attend (a nice venue) would be a gift of $300. You could never get away with purchasing 2 sets of towel sets when bride didn’t have it on their registry to begin with.