Among Friends

[cecesnana]

Interesting point of view I saw on Facebook this morning. Good food for thought for me so I'm sharing it for wherever it's worth.

Hope you had a great July 4.💙💚❤️

Think Before You Post

"How many of us have kids? How many of us are uber-cautious about how our kids are using social media? Maybe we need to practice what we preach. Maybe our kids should teach us a thing or two about social etiquette.

I can’t speak for you but I can tell you that I absolutely have had multiple hundreds of conversations with my tween specifically about how to behave online. And sadly I often use adult’s mistakes as examples.

Would he/she want what she is posting to be printed out (or worse a screen-shot) and posted in the school lobby for all to read? If yes – then post.

I want my daughter to really think before she posts. I want her to offer value. I want her to someday be seen as resource and as someone who was kind and thoughtful to people she is connected with. I teach my clients to 'Post with Purpose.' This goes for us all.

I am the first to admit that all of us (adults) are not perfect. But why aren’t we taking our own advice? Why aren’t we THINKing before we post?

Who are we helping when we aren’t truthful?

Who are we helping when we are hurting people?

Yah yah yah, freedom of speech, we/you have the right to say whatever we want, where ever we want but… bullying is bullying – online or in person.

Adults (regardless of the number of degrees you have or businesses you own) should know better.

I believe that 99% of what you might write/type (possibly without thinking) as ‘making a stand’ or ‘calling people out on’ you would NEVER EVER EVER say to someone in person.

Maybe think a bit more about that before you start posting a response to me that you and I both know you would never say to my face."

3/21/16

(from blog by Deb Laflamme, Social Media and Online Marketing Specialist)

[GSPgirl]

I teach and have found the biggest bullies are the parents.

[Mominohio]

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@cecesnana wrote:

Interesting point of view I saw on Facebook this morning. Good food for thought for me so I'm sharing it for wherever it's worth.

Hope you had a great July 4.💙💚❤️

Think Before You Post

"How many of us have kids? How many of us are uber-cautious about how our kids are using social media? Maybe we need to practice what we preach. Maybe our kids should teach us a thing or two about social etiquette.

I can’t speak for you but I can tell you that I absolutely have had multiple hundreds of conversations with my tween specifically about how to behave online. And sadly I often use adult’s mistakes as examples.

Would he/she want what she is posting to be printed out (or worse a screen-shot) and posted in the school lobby for all to read? If yes – then post.

I want my daughter to really think before she posts. I want her to offer value. I want her to someday be seen as resource and as someone who was kind and thoughtful to people she is connected with. I teach my clients to 'Post with Purpose.' This goes for us all.

I am the first to admit that all of us (adults) are not perfect. But why aren’t we taking our own advice? Why aren’t we THINKing before we post?

Who are we helping when we aren’t truthful?

Who are we helping when we are hurting people?

Yah yah yah, freedom of speech, we/you have the right to say whatever we want, where ever we want but… bullying is bullying – online or in person.

Adults (regardless of the number of degrees you have or businesses you own) should know better.

I believe that 99% of what you might write/type (possibly without thinking) is ‘making a stand’ or ‘calling people out on’ you would NEVER EVER EVER say to someone in person.

Maybe think a bit more about that before you start posting a response to me that you and I both know you would never say to my face."

3/21/16

(from blog by Deb Laflamme, Social Media and Online Marketing Specialist)

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In reference to the bold statement, I think most people today who are 'making a stand' or 'calling people out' on any forum, blog, or social media page would indeed say it to your face.

I think the days of not speaking one's mind, even face to face (especially once the conversation has been initiated) is long gone. 

Formalities have been dropped in all aspects of our lives, People now wear jeans to church, no longer do men wear suits and ties to baseball games, more of us are on first name basis rather than Mr. and Mrs so and so, everything is more casual. That includes what comes out of our mouths (or fingers).

Good thing or not, it pretty much is the way of the world today. Still some people who wouldn't initiate the conversation, but once opened, most people will say what is on their mind.

[Puzzle Piece]

I didn't have children (by choice) but I work with them. I agree with poster number one - the parents are the biggest bullies.  I might add, and the problem most all minors have.  I've seen mom after awful mom come in with their children and notice the venemous attitude they maintain.  They are mad at the world and feel shortchanged.  It's their problem but they make the children and the world their therapy. 

[ROMARY]

Yes, many of the moms we see driving around here don't seem very happy.  Always rushing around, kids in tow.  Very sad when a mom doesn't have enough time to give a smile, a short 'Hello'. (Kids do imitate their parents' demeanor.)  Grandmoms, on the other hand, always seem to stop and chat, and their grandchildren seem so content and happy, and love to interact.  What a difference.  p.s.  Sometimes, as the youngsters (who we know because of their grandmoms) are rushed off in cars, we get a secret 'wave hello' from them in their back car seats as they drive/rush off.  (lol)

[Puzzle Piece]

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@ROMARY wrote:

Yes, many of the moms we see driving around here don't seem very happy.  Always rushing around, kids in tow.  Very sad when a mom doesn't have enough time to give a smile, a short 'Hello'. (Kids do imitate their parents' demeanor.)  Grandmoms, on the other hand, always seem to stop and chat, and their grandchildren seem so content and happy, and love to interact.  What a difference.  p.s.  Sometimes, as the youngsters (who we know because of their grandmoms) are rushed off in cars, we get a secret 'wave hello' from them in their back car seats as they drive/rush off.  (lol)

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Very unhappy unfulilled moms.  I think they bought into the having children would make them happy or satisfied thinking.  Those days were for women of the last century and it ended in the 1960's.  Careers and learning along with adventures and experiences are what women now seek.  Things change - your gandmothers world is long past. 

[blackhole99]

Unless you thrive on confrontation, most people are not going to say anything to your face that is going to upset you if they can avoid it I think the forums are a good outlet for people to get things off their chest and not have to worry about seeing the person the next day. It's only a forum where people are exchanging ideas and info and IMO serious friendships should be avoided. I always wonder about these posters who take over a thread and exclude everyone else and have their own conversation. If you are so tender hearted that you let what a stranger says on a forum affect you badly then you should stay off the web.

[Moonchilde]

I have been active on internet forums since the early 1990s. I have never felt it was my duty or responsibility to always "be nice", be sweet, uplifting, supportive, empowering, loving, caring, etc. etc. at all times to everyone I encounter. I don't believe that *everyone* deserves the benefit of the doubt, support, kindness, etc. at all times.

Since we are speaking of being on the internet vs. face to face - how many would be all those positive things named above to *every* complete stranger they meet on the street? In person we take into account a person's appearance, facial expressions, body language and words. Although not everyone will ever be clued in to them (as witnessed every day on these forums) there are online clues to a person that will give you a good idea of whether they should be supported...or not. I use them.