Among Friends

[elated]

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@happilyretiredgirl wrote:

I have a different situation with shopping, many years ago in my younger days, my SIL and I would always go shopping together. Sometimes we would just window shop and have lunch until later I would see her in clothes that I had tried on but did not purchase at thst time. She would go back shopping and buy everything I liked (not a big deal but I felt at the time she was being sneaky) nowadays I could care less.

But the one thing she did that ended my shopping or telling her what I like was this experience, I needed a new dinning room table and was considering a hutch as well. I found one and really liked it but I wanted to discuss it with my husband first. Before I could go purchase it she called me and said you know that dinning set you liked, I purchased it today, it looks so good stop by and see it. 

That was my last shopping experience or even telling her what I had purchased.

BTW: I found even a nicer dinning set later😉

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@happilyretiredgirl  Just a thought. Did you ever consider she valued your opinion and this was a compliment. 

[Tinkrbl44]

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@BunSnoop wrote:

I have a couple of friends that often will say they like something of mine (clothing, shoes, home decor, jewelry, etc.) and after the compliment next they'll say "where did you get it"?

Perhaps they sincerely like my taste and want to know where I shop so they can shop there too?? 

However, sometimes I just don't feel like telling them where I buy every single thing.  Sometimes I tell them where it's from, sometimes I say, "I've had it a while and don't really remember" or I'll say "online".

How about you - do you have friends/relatives that often ask that question too?  If so, how do you respond?

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@BunSnoop 

I think it depends on who the person is.   If it's family or a stranger in the grocery store, and I actually remember, I'll tell them. 

If it's a nosy busybody type person, I default to

1-- Online somewhere

2--I don't recall 

3--It was a gift, so I have no idea.  

As for those that ask about PRICE ...

I immediately put them on the spot with something like "WOW, what a nosy question!" and let them squirm, hoping they actually give thought to what they're doing.

Some people just ask because people tell them without thinking.  I'm NOT one of those people.  

I hate "inappropriate nosiness".  

[happilyretiredgirl]

@elated  Yes I did, but I was younger and it irritated me. She never once said I like that if you don't buy it I will. I felt she could have least said that to me. However, she has always been the type that whatever someone has she has two....she's the keep up with the Jones type, if you know what I mean. 

[AuntG]

If I remembered, I'd tell them.

I'm not sure why you'd be hesitant. Is it because you don't think they ask in a complimentary way, and maybe they don't like the item?  Even if I got a good deal at a thrift store, I'd happily say so.

[CrazyKittyLvr2]

I have no problem telling where I got something if asked.  I was asked umpteen times about my perfume.  It was Amazing Grace (when Christina had the company and the scent lasted).  I always told them what it was and where I got it.   Gosh, I miss the old Amazing Grace.  I can barely smell it after an hour.

No one has ever asked what I paid for anything.

[Icegoddess]

I don't see the issue.  I would just tell them if I actually remembered.  I have asked the question before, not because I wanted to buy the exact same thing.  It's more a case of me liking the style or their style.

[AuntG]

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@elated wrote:

If someone asks me where I bought an item, I always share. I don't find it offensive or intruding, I take it as a compliment. I don't think anyone has asked about the price but I would share. It could turn into a sale for the company. It benefits all.

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@elated I was thinking that too. If I could send some business to a retailer, everyone wins.

[on the bay]

I never mind telling someone where I got something and often with family or friends will tell them even if they don't ask.

The other day one of my daughters said you look so cute, very co-ordinated (probably as opposed to other times lol!)

I proudly told her I got the top with her sister at Gap and the pants I got years ago at Rite Aid lol! They used to have the best clothes-really!

I like to say I got something at Walmart because sometimes they have nice things.

I rarely ask someone else where they got something, but often give compliments.

The rare times I will tell someone I got it at QVC I do get the look like I have 2 heads. There definitely is a stigma I think, for people who haven't really looked into it.

[nambee]

@happilyretiredgirl  - Yeah that's really bad.

Reminds me of when I was in my early 20's and had a group of friends who did most things together. One of the girls got married and another girl in the group went shopping right after the wedding and bought the exact same wedding dress. She pretended that she didn't realize it was the same dress but she wasn't very convincing.

Those of us who are still friends talk about it to this day.

[shoekitty]

QVCkitty11   lol, me too with QVC. In the early days like 1987-92 I  bought everything on QVC.  They had some really innovative cute stuff then. There was no online shopping, we were stuck with home down town, malls and catalogues.  People asked and  I was too embarrassed to say.loll!  In those days  many didn't even have cable tv, we had no internet. To say you bought from tv ...got what's???  Who is that.?  loll or they thought, I wish I could stay home all day and shop lol. It wasn't tile mid 1990'sQVCC was more well known.  I usually don't like to tell people where I get things. Some are high end, and I don't want people to think I spend that much. I shop sale, but who wants to go into detail. I just say, it's old, or I got online.   If it's family..theyknoweverything anyway,loll!