Among Friends

[shoekitty]

sometimes it never hurts to toss any hurt and anger aside, and just accept apology.  You don't have to be friends, or even talk to this person again, ever if you choose. But sometimes the better person just goes for it, and closes a chapter on a bad experience.   Maybe say, you have a lot going on and prefer to talk after Christmas.?   Doesn't mean you forget, or even have to like the person. Cleanses the soul IMO. But I wasn't there, and I'm not you. 

ETA. Is this person maybe  in a 12 step program and wants to make amends?  Just sayin', never know.  

[Seminole2]

@Puzzle Piece  hear them out on your terms, after the holidays.  The person may need to do this to clear their conscience and that's okay.  A phone call is quick and easy.  Life is to short for drama.  Merry Christmas.

[Jaynah]

"The cat was dying and there were financial debts in their life."

I don't get this line? Is that why she went ballistic on you, because

of her cat and financial stuff? 🤔

Personally, I don't know if I'd be interested in talking to her,

if it were me. JMO. 

[Biftu]

No one should "go ballistic" on someone when things aren't going well in their lives.  However, I've found that sometimes people become overwhelmed when they are dealing with death, illness, depression, finances, etc. and just let loose. Aquantances and even friends have an end date for a reason or no reason at all.  If you care about this person give her a call or just let it be.  Do what you feel in your heart.

[LizzieInSRQ]

Sorry @Puzzle Piece @, I can only speak for myself but if someone said to me, without a clear reason that they never wanted to speak to me again ( if im recalling your previous post correctly)...id darn sure never, ever have another conversation with them again; relative, friend or acquaintance. 

If someone is going to be so bold to say something like that, they need to be responsible and deal with the consequences of me believing them. 

Now I dont recall you mentioning a reason why they said it and it really doesn't matter; you know or dont know so this decision is strictly yours because you know or you dont know, ya know?

[CalminHeart]

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@Puzzle Piece wrote:

Early last Fall I wrote that an acquaintance took issue with me and went ballistic on me.  The cat was dying and there were financial debts in their life.

This Christmas Eve, they write and feel like talking.  I'm not too keen on chatting at present with them.  I want to enjoy my Holiday in my own way and I had put that incident behind me.  

Just thought I'd share.  

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What better time is there to forgive someone or at least bring peace between people? 

If it was me, I'd offer a few dates the first week of January to get coffee together. 

Forgiving someone does more for oneself than it does for the offender. It doesn't mean you have to become best friends.

[Desert Lily]

 @Puzzle Piece  In that fall post you mention, I think you said their cat was dying and that the acquaintance "went back weeks maybe months of words" that the acquaintance and you had spoken, and that then the acquaintance didn't want to speak to you anymore.

It sounds as though both of you were hurt by words spoken; that the acquaintance is forgiving you now, is seeking your forgiveness, and perhaps is looking for some type of reconciliation.

For me, I see Christmas as a time to extend an olive branch, not a time to postpone extending an olive branch, nor a reason to cut the branch off.

[Puzzle Piece]

@Desert Lily No, the aquaintance just wanted to continue their rant.  They went off again because yet, another cat was dying on them  

I won't ever have anything to do with them.  I am not their batttering ram for the unfortunate things that happen to them in life.  

[Puzzle Piece]

@CalminHeart  That person was just picking a fight lashing out due to yet another cat dying on them.  No, we won't ever be speaking again.  Perhaps that is why they don't have any friends and family avoids them.   

[Desert Lily]

@Puzzle Piece  Since you say that they have another cat that's dying now and you didn't mention that in your original post, I can only guess you've spoken to them?

I'm sensing you have a lot of anger & animosity where the acquaintance topic is concerned.

What a shame. It's Christmas time and you & the acquaintance were given a chance to forgive & forget.

Should auld acquaintance be forgot, and never brought to mind?

I'm outta this thread because it doesn't have a good Christmas vibe for me.

I wish you peace.