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@Shanus   Thanks for letting us know that.

I didn't know. I watch every  WW2 picture there is and have listened to most of the

First Person stories and some of Shoah's. Don't know how I missed that but can't remember ever seeing it.

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@Trinity11 wrote:

I thought this thread was also about the passing of ECBG. She was a good cyber friend to Shanus.


But she was not Jewish this a traditional Jewish practice for relatives that have passed

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Beautiful tradition for a beautiful religion and culture.  Lovely post, thank you Shanus.

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@Shanus 

 

Funny enough, I was familiar with the torn clothing, but not the black ribbon.  Thank you so much for this discussion.  I've always been very interested in all religions and cultural practices.  Anytime you want to share, I'm here to read.  Thanks again.😃❤️

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I think a lot of cultures and religions cross each other and for centuries have mingled traditions together worldwide.   

 

For instance, my grandparents were born in Poland, Russia, Lithuania and were Catholic. In my family, before I was born, the deceased family member was laid out in the "parlor" and family members took turns keeping the deceased company.  Doors and windows were open to let the deceased's soul out, clocks were stopped and mirrors were either draped in black or turned around so the dead would not see their image in the mirrors.  I never experienced it but my mom did. Her dad was laid out in their front living room.  

 

While I do not practice any faith, I find the historical aspect to it fascinating.

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The Jewish funeral homes provide and  pass out the black torn ribbons to those attending a funeral.

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I think you're exactly right about all the different faiths and cultures mingling and many of their traditions are very much the same.❤️

 

Where I'm from, some people are still known to have deceased family members at a church and someone sits up all night with them.

 Years ago, I'm not sure about now, people would bring them to their homes.  I remember seeing this once as a small child with someone my dads family knew.

 

Even now, everyone brings food to the relatives of the deceased family for days.

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Hi @Shanus   Woman Happy

 

Wonderful tradition & sentiment you shared with us.  Very meaningful.  Thank you. Woman Happy

 

Even tho, not a day goes by whereby I dont remember my beloved Dad, I also have adopted the tradition of lighting a candle,  lit until extinguished, on the anniversary of my beloved Dad's death.  Even tho my faith is related, but differing, graphed, this particular physical manifestation each year, memorializing my Dad's passing, seems to help console me, while I continually miss his earthly self, until . .

 

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 If I remember corectly , in the movie the "  Song of Names ", I think they may have shown the black cloth tied around  their upper arms.

 

 

 

"The Song of Names is a 2019 drama film directed by François Girard. An adaptation of the novel of the same name by Norman Lebrecht, it stars Tim Roth and Clive  Owen. "

 
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@bmorechick,  my maternal grandparents were of Lithuanian heritage with grandpa having immigrated from Lithuania and grandma a first generation American.

 

When my grandfather passed he was laid out at home, in the "parlor" with the clocks stopped and mirrors covered as you described.  Memory fails me in regard to the doors and windows.

 

I was 12 when he passed.  After his passing the tradition was discontinued.

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