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[Lucky Charm]

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@LTT1 wrote:

@millieshops@Vivian

In response to your post, I wonder if people with dementia remember what their original position/opinion was?

It seems that happened with my parents. They knew one was mad at the other, but they had no idea what the original issue was about?

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And I'll repeat that 2 out of every 3 people who get ALZ are WOMEN.

Today (Thursday, June 30 at 11:30 est), Maria Shriver is having a facebook live session, cooking and eating--better nutrition.   Diet is so important to possibly avoid the progression, perhaps even (halt) the diagnosis of Alzheimers.

She lives and breathes for a cure (or even advances in treatment) to this terrible disease.

Nobody wants this to happen to them. 

[luvdoodles]

I tried to reply to you yesterday but it wouldn't go through. When my father was still living at home my mother had to put alarms on the bedroom door and the back door because he was always trying to get out. Even if you aren't there that night, just maybe the sound would a deterent. Just an idea. But then she would need to know how to turn it off. That could be a problem. God bless you as you go through this long journey.

[LilacTree]

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@Vivian Florimond wrote:

My 73 year old husband was recently diagnosed with mild cognitive impairment. He is in total denial about it. He can function well for the most part but his short term memory is almost non existant and yet he is entirely unaware of the problem. Telling him about it is of no use.

We bought a beautiful new car last week. Probably his last. The dealer said we will need a bank check to pay for it. My husband insists he will bring the dealership a personal check. They will not accept it. I am more than happy to get the bank check but my husband insists that he will present the personal check and the dealer had darned well accept our money on his terms. His stubbornness, ways a problem, has clearly gotten worse now that he may be in the early stages of dementia. This is just one example of how he sees the world on his terms only.  I fear that he will embarrass himself yet the more I intervene, the angrier he becomes. I am at my wits' end yet I know this is only the beginning of his downward spiral. He's on meds but I see no effect. He has become a very grumpy old man. I know he must be scared but it manifests itself in stubborn anger. What can I do?

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@Vivian Florimond

Your husband is probably fighting for his independence and self confidence.  He probably knows he's slowly losing it and is using any kind of situation to prove he's still in charge.  If he's already on medication, there is little you can do.

My heart goes out to both of you. 

My youngest brother is now going through this with our other brother, only he won't go for help . . . I wrote about it in Wellness.  It's a frustrating and tragic situation.