Senior Years

Calcgirl · ‎03-10-2010

For those over 65:

Would you live with someone who did not love you just so you would not be lonely or alone?

phluphy · ‎05-30-2010

I believe your speaking of a man or maybe a realative?? NO, I would not. I lost my wonderful Husband 3 years ago. I know what love is and could never replace that feeling. Also I have a wonderful family so I'm good. I have friends to enjoy an outing/going to lunch. I fill my day with many fun things to do

Pook · ‎03-20-2010

No way! It's hard enough living with someone you love deeply at times.

AngelPuppy1 · ‎03-13-2010

Welllll, that's really a question!

I would say --- it depends --- on a lot of things!

First off --- I would have to really like the person and have a great relationship with them.

There would have to be ground rules set right from the start and an understanding of what was expected from the both of you.

Without love, there would be no extra benefits, that's for sure!

But, if it would be agreed upon that the both of you were going into it solely for the purpose of companionship, company, safety, security, friendship, etc., then I say --- go ahead.

It would be a good idea to have an agreement set up in writing, too. For instance, how expenses --- utlities, food, insurance, etc., are to be paid and divided up. And --- who would be doing chores and maintenance, etc.

I don't think the thought of being totally alone in the senior years is all that much fun. Not all of us have a ton of relatives --- children, etc.

So, I could see this beging a good thing. But --- a friendship that has been in the making for quite some time would need to be there before taking that step!

"A day without sunshine is like, you know, night." - Steve Martin

chiclet · ‎03-19-2010

That would be a decision based on individual circumstances.

AuntG · ‎03-09-2010

I'd live with a friend, just like The Golden Girls.

HiLo · ‎03-10-2010

I would live with somebody only for financial reasons and with only a close woman friend.

freakygirl · ‎07-03-2014

are you currently married to this person? if you are, and you're not financially dependent on him, nor happy, then i wouldn't stay. if you have family and friends who will be around for company and support, i would definitely go. on the other hand, if you don't feel brave or confident enough to be on your own, then stay.