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[barbie4njdevils]

If that was done on Christmas Day then YES you were wrong and should have invited your sister SHAME ON YOU lol just saying 🎄❤️

[BeccaLou]

@Leggett28 Regretfully Christmas was always someone unhappy so I announced  17 years ago "I will not do this get together any longer". And my nerves are a lot better. Also I wanted to quit smoking and was afraid that it would sent me off the wagon , not worht it.

[SleeplessinSD]

@Calcgirl , has your sister always been invited and attended your Christmas dinners?  Was this dinner with your children and grandchildren held on Christmas Day? You say she's hosted many dinners with her children without inviting you. Were those dinners held  at Christmas? Did you have another time/day where the two of you would be together to celebrate? If this was the only time/dinner planned, I could see where she might be hurt.  I'd give her a little time to accept you meant no harm. You know her best. Holidays, especially Christmas, can be a sensitive time. Good luck...

[NicksmomESQ]

 @Calcgirl   Your sister has children,doesn't she usually  spend Christmas with them? If she doesn't for some reason does she always spend the Holiday with you? And if she does usually spend the Holiday with you, would she & her companion be alone without your invite?

    If the answer to the last question is yes then I think you made a mistake in not inviting her.Being alone on Christmas isn't fun.To suddenly be left out when you're always included may have made your sister feel abandoned.

   We always spend Christmas Eve with friends.No matter how much their family has expanded through the years they always remember to include us.
    It's your house & of course your choice but Holidays can get complicated & lonely.I understand your sisters hurt feelings.

[Lindsays Grandma]

@Calcgirl ...I don't know if you and your sister had any conversations prior to Christmas about anyone having dinner.  My feelings are it is her problem, not yours.  Where is it written that you are obligated to invite her to your home when you have your children for dinner?  You explained the situation to her which she ignores, that is not fair to you.  The way I see it, you do not owe her an apology for anything, let her stew for  another week or so and then contact her again.  If she still feels hurt don't take it personally, hopefully in due time she will realize you did nothing wrong and all will be back to normal.

[mary0129]

I have 4 sisters and would tell the cranky one to get over it and move on.

[Lilysmom]

@Calcgirl , my situation is the reverse.  I was a last minute (a couple of days before) invite on a big holiday to my sister's for dinner.  We had already invited others to our home so we declined. Too late for us to cancel.   That was a year ago and I am still in the dog house,  I think my sister needs to get over it.  

You apologized.  That should be enough.  LM

[godi]

My sister and I had these battles also. Just stick to your guns you did nothing wrong. It too shall pass. ❤️

[dex]

@Calcgirl @I don't know the entire situation but it is your house and you get to invite who you choose.I hope that you and your sister can find a way to work through this.Were you always close before this occurred?Did you always invite your sis in the past?Are you tired of hosting her for all special occasions and wish she would take a turn?

[deedledeedeedle]

@Calcgirl ,

This situation brought back memories of when my sisters and I would "feud" over something petty.

If you've already explained that it was not meant to be disrespectful to her, I would just give it some time. Surely she will come to realize that she's done the same thing with her children and it does not affect the way you two feel about one another in any way.

I lost both sisters within 2 years of each other and, boy, would I ever like to have the time back that we spent when we each had our "backs up" against the other. Hold her close in your heart , that's the most important thing, and whenever you speak remember to tell her that you love her. That would be my best advice.

dee