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[missy1]

gift registries

[KathyPet]

I have never heard of cash as a shower gift and I know of no one who has ever given cash as a shower gift.  cash as a wedding gift is a normal occurrence.  IF you do not want to,choose from a registry then give a gift card to one of the stores she is registered at.

[Kitlynn]

It is up to you to decide what you want to give. Money is always good because they can use it to purchase something they want that they don't get. The registry is really just so people can actually choose something they know the bride and groom really would like to have if they are giving an actual present. However if you know the couple well you can decide something to give them that they aren't registered for. I always feel like that any present should be appreciated as no one is under any obligation to give or do anything for anyone and if someone does then I think whoever receives the gift should be grateful that someone cared enough about them to give them something in the first place and I think most of the time they do. So give what you want and let it be from your heart and you won't go wrong.

[Pook]

I think it's better to stick with the registry or a gift card to one of the places they are registered at.  That will eliminate unwanted and often useless gifts given by some who think they are being creative and different.  That's just a waste of money and the couple is stuck with things they will never use and often end up just being carted around because the couple feels they must keep them.  The young these days do not want stuff like that no matter the cost.  

[ID2]

Remember, its about the bride! Not what you feel like giving. The bride makes it soooo easy! She has registered for things that she needs and to make it awfully easy for anyone to buy! When I was married (1978) all of my shower gifts were from my registry. I was as happy as a clam! 

[Katcat1]

@Kitty Galore,     I think gift registery is a wonderful tool.  This way you are buying what the bride really wants.  If for some reason you can't get out or you just don't care to select from the registery then give cash or a check.  There is never anything wrong with money!    

[ValuSkr]

People should just start charging admission / selling tickets for baby showers, wedding showers, etc.  That will make it easier for everyone.

[Bri36]

I usually give a gift from the registery.  I will also give a gift card or cash. 

It astounds me that people go out of their way to purposely buy things not on the registery.  When I give a gift, I want it to be something the bride and groom will use - not give away or throw in the back of the closet. 

[Sooner]

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@KathyPet wrote:

I have never heard of cash as a shower gift and I know of no one who has ever given cash as a shower gift.  cash as a wedding gift is a normal occurrence.  IF you do not want to,choose from a registry then give a gift card to one of the stores she is registered at.

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People gave cash as shower gifts back in the 1970s that I know of. . .   Cash is always a good gift.

[wildcat fan]

If not buying from the registry, I like the idea of giving a gift card for a store that the couple has registered items.  IMO that's better than giving something the couple may not like or need.

The last couple of wedding invitations we received left me somewhat irked, so I can relate to your question.  My husband had a couple of former student interns send us wedding invitations.  I barely know them having spoken to them a few times.  Their online registries were full of items $250 and up. While they're nice people and we wish them well, that's more than I wanted to spend.  I was tempted to go the gift card route, but DH said to go ahead and pick something from the registries.  I felt it was inappropriate for these two couples to have such high ticket items on their registries without including an array of items including gifts that were less expensive.