Among Friends

[sarahpanda]

I have a very outgoing personality in public - yet I find that I shy away from invitations to gatherings/ any social settings, etc.  I wish I was different but I find 'peace' in my own little square box world.   Anyone else relate?

[spumoni99]

Yes I feel the exact same way.

[LTT1]

@sarahpanda @spumoni99 

Exactly‼️🙂

[JYWilliams]

@sarahpanda, As I've gotten older I have. Years ago I use to love to travel, go to different sport games, have get togethers, going out to eat and to the movies etc Now not so much. But I'm happy with that. I've pretty much did all I wanted to do in life. It's a few places I still would like to go visit. Alaska and Canada being two of them.

[LTT1]

@sarahpanda @JYWilliams @spumoni99 

I also fit into the category of "introvert".

Spending time in large groups of others leaves me very drained‼️

In recent years, I have analyzed my own behavior and found a few clues about why this is but trying to change it now just doesn't fit‼️

[catter70]

That's me to a "T". I'm like that even with people I know well, if there's more than about 3 people.

[Skyegirl21]

I can relate too- i am an extrovert if out in public but choose to be a homebody most of the time- I rarely travel  by choice. I find travel very draining and anxiety-provoking. 

As another poster mentioned, the social "mask" is very draining.  And it's a tough world these days... I'm happiest being home with my DH and my dog- But everyone has to find their own happiness! 

[AngelPuppy1]

I would not say that I am a recluse but I am not an extrovert.  I do much better "one on one".  I have never enjoyed or felt comfortable being with a large group of people or enjoyed parties.  I am the most happy being a home with my husband.  I do enjoy occasionally meeting a friend for breakfast or lunch.  Also, I occasionally will talk to somebody a little bit when I am waiting for a dotor's appointment or say a word or two while shopping.  I also like to give compliments - sincere ones.  I find that most people are so happy to receive them and say --- you just made my day!  

[SoCal Bred]

I have been retired for 6 years and have found myself to be more of a recluse now by choice, I meet up with about 2-3 friends for lunch several times a year to catch up but that's about it, I decline invites to get together with larger groups with previous past employees, it's just not my thing.  I feel more comfortable just staying at home doing absolutely nothing if I choose or do whatever at my leisure without any pressure. 

[Neetgal2]

If I can get myself out of the house to go to group activities or even shopping, I am fine.  I just seem to sit inside, read, knit, exercise and occasionally cook, clean or sew.  There is no reason I don't go out.  I have a car and live in a nice town.☹️. Old age, I suppose.

wish it was different.  Once I get out to group activities, I enjoy myself and others.