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[151949]

People on this board assume a lot about other posters then , in their mind they assume it is all fact, when the actual fact is - they made it all up.

[Oznell]

I do think that the process of assessing other people, and getting a sense of their characters, takes time.

Observe.  What are their values?  What do they take seriously, and what do they take lightly?

As far as you can determine, are they honest?  How do they treat others.  Are they kind?

What do they think about, and what do they talk about-- this can be very revealing.  Do they generally display warmth, loyalty, dignity, or whatever the values are that are important to you?

Geting to see how they handle themselves in a variety of situations can be very helpful.  And it does take time.

[chrystaltree]

Oh, please.  I haven't even figured myself out.

[itiswhatitis]

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@Mistreatedbycs wrote:

Someone posted that's been quite active and I thought they were in their 20's and because they posted some personal information, they are well in their 60's maybe older.   It doesn't matter it was just I remembered the career path I was going to take.

maybe i'm missing something but isn't your nic your nickname?

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@Mistreatedbycs, on here?  No it's my "handle."  My nickname are terms of endearment that my loved ones have given me for some odd reason or another.  I may have given myself a nickname as well.  On Social media (such as a forum) it's my handle.  No one outside of this place (knows my name or my nicknames) and that's the way it should be.

As far as knowing how to profile someone, no I can't say that I can.  That requires a lot of cultural anthropology, group psychology, study of sociopaths and such plus a host of other courses.  It's not an exact science either so.  I do find it interesting because I'm a true crime buff and watch this kind of programming consistently.  

[itiswhatitis]

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@Oznell wrote:

I do think that the process of assessing other people, and getting a sense of their characters, takes time.

Observe.  What are their values?  What do they take seriously, and what do they take lightly?

As far as you can determine, are they honest?  How do they treat others.  Are they kind?

What do they think about, and what do they talk about-- this can be very revealing.  Do they generally display warmth, loyalty, dignity, or whatever the values are that are important to you?

Geting to see how they handle themselves in a variety of situations can be very helpful.  And it does take time.

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This could take a lifetime to do.  People change throughout their lives.  Finally, when faced with a situation one has never encountered before it is extremely different to know that what they do today, would be what they would do if it ever happened again.

[Allegheny]

Do you have people figured out?   Nope, not at all. 

[Moonchilde]

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@Oznell wrote:

I do think that the process of assessing other people, and getting a sense of their characters, takes time.

Observe.  What are their values?  What do they take seriously, and what do they take lightly?

As far as you can determine, are they honest?  How do they treat others.  Are they kind?

What do they think about, and what do they talk about-- this can be very revealing.  Do they generally display warmth, loyalty, dignity, or whatever the values are that are important to you?

Geting to see how they handle themselves in a variety of situations can be very helpful.  And it does take time.

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To me, the above would only tell of the person's "qualifications" as far as someone  to associate with.  When I'm viewing someone's behavior, I'm not necessarily thinking 'do I like them', I'm just experiencing who/what they are, usually apart from 'are they acceptable to me.'

[Texasmouse]

I think it all boils down to the fact that, whether we like to admit it or not, we are constantly judging others, consciously or subconsciously. It's not a bad thing, it's human nature.

[blackhole99]

I think you have to know someone for a long time before you can make a personal judgement about them. I think there are first impressions, but that's all they are. I thought profiling was where you gathered info on someone and tried to figure out what they would do and how they may behave from that info.

[Q4u]

I have taken Karate since College.  Then intensely for years becoming a 2nd Degree Black Belt in Tang Soo Do.

I also taught and I participated in Tournaments.  One of the things we learned was to recognize certain facial characteristics, body movements, because there are characteristics that turn out to be the same.  If it's called profiling, then that is what it is.... people intent to cause harm tend to give off a certain vibe and if you've been taught what to look for, what you might feel from them (first instinct is usually right).... you may be able to diffuse a situation, or at least run.

But the person studying this whether in Karate or in general does need to have a higher than normal curiosity about it and a certain amount of natural perception.... IMHO