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[StraytoStay]

I hope this doesn't get poofed, but I could use any advice. I saw one of the men peeing on my fence last night. They are problem neighbors, junk outside, they don't trim weed trees, and have filed code enforcement complaints before for them parking on their front lawn. Another neighbor filed a complaint non their junk, too. So, not on good terms. They don't speak much English so we can't go talk to them, but would not on this situation either! If I see it again, I could try to capture a picture, but don't want to. I doubt it is the first time, but I'm outside more now that it's warmer. I know it is illegal, public indecent exposure & considered a sex crime. It's just gross. Anonymous postcard to their address? What would you do?

[Nightowlz]

I would call the police & let them deal with it. I don't have very nice neighbors either but I have never seen them peeing outside. At least 1 of neighbors finally got of his rear & has started cleaning his yard but doubt he will prune his trees. I don't want to get started. LOL!!! Good Luck.

[LilacTree]

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@StraytoStay wrote:

I hope this doesn't get poofed, but I could use any advice. I saw one of the men peeing on my fence last night. They are problem neighbors, junk outside, they don't trim weed trees, and have filed code enforcement complaints before for them parking on their front lawn. Another neighbor filed a complaint non their junk, too. So, not on good terms. They don't speak much English so we can't go talk to them, but would not on this situation either! If I see it again, I could try to capture a picture, but don't want to. I doubt it is the first time, but I'm outside more now that it's warmer. I know it is illegal, public indecent exposure & considered a sex crime. It's just gross. Anonymous postcard? What would you do?

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@StraytoStay

You don't have to answer this, but is this taking place in NJ near the shore?

[CrazyDaisy]

While not quite the same thing, I am in the process of getting a trail cam.  I have a neighbor who allows this dog to relieve himself on my car.  Nothing can be done unless you have proof.  With photos there is no denying the act.

[StraytoStay]

I will probably file a new code enforcement complaint on the junk and weed trees, but add this part in. I'd feel silly calling in I saw my neighbor relieving himself, even though that isn't bad advice. 😜

[Stormygirl]

@StraytoStay just please be very careful....I thought when I moved out into the woods with 11 acres that I wouldnt have to deal with "neighbors" anymore.....but when I dared call and complain about the loose dog a great dane (who was aggresive, in my yard digging and knocking me down), my nearest neighbor I didnt know was a drunk came over threatening me, tried to bash in my door....was totally nuts. I am still in alot of shock but he will never get a second chance to do that again without his head connecting with a baseball bat. Im serious about being careful as I never predicted this kind of behavior. I havent seen him since but am now hypervigilant.

[StraytoStay]

Thanks @Stormygirl so sorry to hear that you went through. I've seen the ID channels "Fear Thy Neighbor" & that is scary how some people can get! I saw one where they would drag a shovel on pavement to wake them up and plant their feces next to their property so they would have to smell it! Ugh

[riley1]

@StraytoStay - I would get one of those cams and put it up in a tree or somewhere close to where he was relieving himself - then take it to the police

[Stormygirl]

@StraytoStay aww thanks it was a huge shock. I know we can get some great advice on these forums but I just wanted to show you the unexpected can happen.......sometimes the unexpected can be dangerous to ones own safety. Ughhh I was never so scared in my life and although the police were then called and I was encouraged to press charges on him (he touched me while threatening me) I havent thus far because what do I think will happen then if the man loses his job, income..........and the police are approx 40 minutes in responding here. Yes I also watch 'Fear Thy Neighbor" and is a good word of caution to proceed............but do so with eyes open because mine were not. People can be downright crazy...especially when intoxicated with alcohol. Big hugs to you and I hope you get this sorted out. Taking pics is good idea but try not to let them see you do it.

[queendiva]

This is why I am staying in my house that is both too big and too expensive (NJ property taxes). My neighbors are great! Quiet, respectful and clean. The neighborhood is very safe and my close neighbor with whom I am friends is a cop in a neighboring town.