Among Friends

[Peaches McPhee]

Could use some perspective from the group.  Another woman and I are casual friends; we decided to get together with our husbands for dinner.  The husbands have never met, nor have we met each other's husbands. After some emailing back and forth, we decided on a date . . . but the other lady added a caveat.  They might have to cancel.  Not for another social engagement, but because they may have a household task that weekend.  I don't want to say exactly what it is, but it is something that could take a whole weekend and is weather sensitive.  They won't know if they need to cancel until very close to the dinner date.  Like the day before.

This annoys me.  Why choose a date with the assumption that it may be cancelled?  Thoughts?

[matty liz]

I would chose another date and if they repeat the same conditions I would tell them that was fine but can't do and leave it up to them to follow up

[Sadiesadie]

Maybe I'm too simplistic but I would just say let's reschedule for another time when there would be no possible conflict.

[CalminHeart]

I'd take her at her word unless it happened more than once. 

[QVCkitty1]

I think they should reschedule when their project is completed. Everyone's time is valuable.

[qualitygal]

Be flexable, it's not written in stone. I wouldn't lose a friend over that!

[fthunt]

I say.....she needs an excuse to back out at the last time because she can't count on -or control her husband, who often refuses to go through with the plan - -.  It depends on his mood at the time.

[CelticCrafter]

If she already knew there was a possibility of a weekend home project, she shouldn't have agreed to that date to begin with. 

[GCR18]

I'd tell her why don't we postpone our dinner until we are both free.  I wouldn't bring it up again and let her reschedule with you.

[VaBelle35]

I guess I don't understand why it's a problem if they cancel on you.  Then you just have a date with your husband and you two can go wherever you want.