Loneliness - Perspective?

JoyFilled Warrior · ‎09-02-2022

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I dont know why this above hadnt occurred to me before now, but seems to ring true, at least, now that Im aware of this.

It's scary putting this out there, but -

Maybe we, maybe I, can pitch in and do something about this - maybe lighten the load of another? Maybe lighten my own load, & my own feelings of lonliness?

Maybe, I can reach out to others who might also be feeling the same? Would that work? I can try this out.

Maybe my beloved Teacher can help me with this.

"Don’t forget to be kind to strangers, for some who have done this have entertained angels without realizing it!" TLB

Roscoe the Rascal · ‎04-19-2016

I think loneliness can be for different reasons. My husband passed and I am lonely and I know I have people who care about me. Sometimes we can be lonely because we isolate ourselves and need to make more effort to put ourselves out there.

I also believe in the statement you posted as well.

It can be hard to be lonely for sure but I also think it takes some work not to be that way as well. I have done more things than I have ever done before and have tried some new things as well. It has taken some time and still working on it but I am starting to get use to living alone and not so lonely as well. Getting a routine going too.

I also think your health can make a big difference as well on how things go for a person. Some are home bound and very few if any visitors. That can be very lonely.

I found after the holidays this year I felt very lonely. Sometimes memories can be a blessing and other times not so much.

meallen616 · ‎01-10-2013

@JoyFilled Warrior and @Roscoe the Rascal,

Very well said, and so true ,thank you!

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CalminHeart · ‎03-09-2010

@JoyFilled Warrior wrote:

Wow. This picture hit home. I come from a huge family and have grown kids. Yet it's still very lonely sometimes. I always thought it was the feeling of being left out. I know my family cares but I don't feel it very often.

deepwaterdotter · ‎03-09-2010

What behaviors can be shown to let the lonely person know that others care?

GingerHead · ‎03-10-2010

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@deepwaterdotter wrote:
What behaviors can be shown to let the lonely person know that others care?

@deepwaterdotter

Great question. From my prespective it's just letting that person feel that they are being "seen" and valued. I felt lonely growing up and never felt "seen" kinda like if I disappeared noone would care kinda thing.

I believe it's all about making people feel valued and acknowledged. That feeling of being unseen and insignificant can be very isolating.

Actively listen, show genuine interest with eye contact and thoughtful questions, check in regularly, and extend simple kindness.

Just, treat them as you'd wish to be treated, and as you treat those you really love and cherish.

By the way....I really see you. haha

"We can judge the heart of a man by his treatment of animals" -Immanuel Kant

"Once you have had a wonderful Dog, a life without one, is a life diminished"-Dean Koontz

katie1859 · ‎06-25-2022

We live in a tragic time and loneliness is expanding

It is a suffering that is heartbreaking

It is a breaking that knows no bounds and is a respecter of no persons

Mom2Dogs · ‎03-09-2010

I have a friend that is lonely, needy, bored, etc.... and there are plenty of people that care for her. Unfortunately her constant neediness is driving people away.

DSD2 · ‎01-09-2016

@GingerHead wrote:
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@deepwaterdotter wrote:
What behaviors can be shown to let the lonely person know that others care?
@deepwaterdotter

Great question. From my prespective it's just letting that person feel that they are being "seen" and valued. I felt lonely growing up and never felt "seen" kinda like if I disappeared noone would care kinda thing.

I believe it's all about making people feel valued and acknowledged. That feeling of being unseen and insignificant can be very isolating.

Actively listen, show genuine interest with eye contact and thoughtful questions, check in regularly, and extend simple kindness.

Just, treat them as you'd wish to be treated, and as you treat those you really love and cherish.

By the way....I really see you. haha

Excellent answer @GingerHead You are so right in that "it's all about making people feel valued and acknowledged. A bit of kindness goes a long way.

qvcaddition · ‎03-10-2010

@JoyFilled Warrior

@JoyFilled Warrior wrote:

I dont know why this above hadnt occurred to me before now, but seems to ring true, at least, now that Im aware of this.

It's scary putting this out there, but -

Maybe we, maybe I, can pitch in and do something about this - maybe lighten the load of another? Maybe lighten my own load, & my own feelings of lonliness?

Maybe, I can reach out to others who might also be feeling the same? Would that work? I can try this out.
Maybe my beloved Teacher can help me with this.

I can relate to this. I have joined a few classes for elderly people and still have a hard time. I'm a person that has always been out there either in public speaking, volunteering,etc. I find myself alone though I am busy very busy with home stuff and errands. During the holidays I found, no one cares to reach out. I am going on 89 in a couple of months and very active, but all my close friends have passed and family doesn't seem to care to call. They will text if I text first, but like to do something with them, but always they are busy.

All, I can say is get out there and try to make a friend. So far, it hasn't worked for me, but I keep trying. I give my phone # to certain women in class, and no one calls. At least, I do not stay in the house isolated, but taking three classes. I am an outgoing person. Keep trying to connect with people.

Last evening, I didn't feel well at all, but it would not have helped to text sons, one always has his phone off and the other has a good excuse, so I did the best I could. Better today.

Last year, I had a bad episode and had to call a wellness check and they suggested I go to ER, so they had an ambulance take me. I was there for hours and no family came.

When, I use to work in the ER room at a hospital, I noticed, if an elderly Hispanic Grandma or Grandpa came in, the whold family came in to be with them. A non Hispanic person 9t times out of 10 no one was there for them.

i worked at two hospitals in the ER back in the day and believe me, the Hispanic people care about their elderly and families.

My advise is, do not isolate yourself, keep trying to make a friend that you click with who you both can care about the other. As we age, it gets harder, but don't give up.

I even took a six week course in a Senior Peer group. This was teaching you to go to other Senior homes that were lonely and had no one. The problem for me was, I could not travel where they would send me in this winter time and with my old car, but I learned alot about what the elderly go through and how many have families that don't check on them or really care.

NOT ALL Families ARE NOT CARING, BUT QUITE A FEW. That is why they have these programs at the COUNCIL OF AGING.