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[Big Sister]

Perhaps her lawyer is requesting the same info from the husband.

[sunshine45]

yes, disclosing your assets and income is normal procedure. she probably has to disclose if she has any credit cards or owes anything also. he will have to answer all of the same questions.

since they both have lawyers, then all of the information will go to them and through them.

this is all part of the interrogatories.

[Imadickens]

Sounds normal to me, from what I've heard! One thing women (men, too, I guess) should know is NOT to change their work status prior to the divorce being final! The judge should decide the outcome based on what has been normal in the marriage all along. If one suddenly begins working full time when all along has only worked a few hours, or not at all, the final decree will not be fair. This happened to a bff who got a job after her husband left her for a young thing ! As a result, he paid no alimony! She had been a stay at home mom for their three kids while he "traveled for work" and had to "work long hours" leaving him "too tired" to go out with her!!!

[151949]

One question or 1000 questions - no difference - you just  answer them one at a time.

[Ibby114]

All the questions about one party in a divorce having a small business sounds normal-  in this case it represents a segment of your friends income & marital property. 

[NYC Susan]

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@Mom2Dogs wrote:

...I am NOT giving her advice...just a helping hand. We are not close friends....she needed help in getting information around and she asked me to help her and I was happy to help her, she is very overwhelmed.

As I mentioned my question is only curious....I just thought the HUGE amount of paperwork and documentation seemed really over kill to me.

She does not make much money, he earns considerable more......I only asked because I am curious if this is normal procedure.

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It's not overkill.  It's done in order to be thorough, and it's not unusual.  It's easy to say that she doesn't make much money, but it makes perfect sense that actual numbers and information would be needed.  I'm sure her attorney will tell her that if he/she hasn't done so already.

[minkbunny]

I would imagine each jurisdiction has their own regulations, but I do this type of work all day long - at a certain point in the divorce process each side must provide Local Rule Discovery which includes a multi page Statement of Marital and Non-Marital Assets and Debts along with Statement of Income and Expenses along with last six pay stubs, last three years income tax returns, any pension plans, IRAs, etc. etc. etc. etc.

oh yea, etc.

And just wait until the Interrogatories and Request for Production of Documents and Things rear their ugly heads.

[Mom2Dogs]

@minkbunny...wow. I really had no idea that this much info would be needed for a divorce. Just helping her I felt a little stressed!

.....from what I understand the big disagreement is the kids..he wants full custody....and he is  doing his best to overwhelm her.  From what I know about them both....he should not get full custody of the kids.  It's just sad for the children, they are all caught in the middle of a bad situation.  She would love to just walk away but she can't....her kids come first.

[3suwm5]

I don't know anything about this type of law.  It just sounds to me like the 'soon to be ex' wants every cent of hers reported, as that will lower what he will be obligated to pay out?MO

[drizzellla]

Seems to make sense to me. How are they going to divide their assets? They have to know what expenses and income she has. So they can determine alimony and child support.

Now as for custody of  kids, I wonder if he doesn't want to pay her child support.

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