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[conlt]

@CalminHeart I am sad that happened to you, it is such a gut punch. I don't think I could have stayed. You were brave. 

[Shanus]

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@Puzzle Piece wrote:

For those who have this happen to them in their lives. 

What do you think ever happened to the bullies and the stalkers of your past?  

I am a senior now and gave thought to those awful peple who did this to me and have done this to others.  

One gal had her home burn down to the ground in the fires out west and she lost all her equity and her belongings.  I don't make any effort to find and locate how the others of the past have done.  

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@Puzzle Piece   I ditched toxic people in my 60's. I don't keep up with them and few try to contact me. I don't wish them any harm. Live and let live.

[bajsf]

When i was in HS...3 girls turned against me for whatever reason I have no idea.  I was best friends with one for years.  About 10 years being out of HS she approaches me and asks to BURY THE HATCHET..nope was my response.  You put me thru ****** for 4 yrs HS and then 2 years in Business school

[Group 5 minus 1]

@conlt : Thank you  for answering my question. It sounds like you went through a lot.

[conlt]

@Group 5 minus 1 Yes, the entire thing was really had. My mom died in August 2019, I was fired in October in 2019. I had been on FMLA for a month caring for mom before she died. I had to start a new job, learn new systems etc. at age 61. I felt so alone. I missed my mom and dad terribly at that time.

Then Covid hit. I was isolated for 18 months working remote. In my previous job, I worked with the same people for many years. I lost all of those contacts. People were afraid that they would be in trouble if they contacted me. 

I gained a lot of weight, and just did not care about myself. It has taken a lot to get back to normal. I am turning 68 this month. 

I often think mom and dad would be so proud that I did the right thing, I stood up for myself.

I called my attorney 4 days before I was fired for a "consultation" just in case I was fired. I loved him then, so smart. I prayed to God and I felt like he was the attorney I should consult. 

4 years later, as I settled the case, my attorney told me that the first time he talked to me, he knew he wanted to help me. I told him, I felt the same way. I thank God or that man. He is a good Man. Young guy only 41 when he represented me, but I could not have had a better advocate. I also learned a lot about Employment Law. 

It is terrible what happens to people. 

[CalminHeart]

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@conlt wrote:

@CalminHeart I am sad that happened to you, it is such a gut punch. I don't think I could have stayed. You were brave. 

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Thank you.

They made my life he** for the next 7 months. I can't tell you how angry I was at the end of each day. What they did violated several laws but no one would help me at the time. 

I did it for my pension. It hit 100% at age 62. I was lucky enough to be grandfathered into the old defined benefit plan which paid out so much more than 401(k)s and other kinds of plans. I retired on my 62nd birthday and never looked back. 

[occasionalrain]

I have a personal code of conduct, we all do whether we realize it or not. Some justify their behavior, some blame others...

I believe in karma, it's rewarded me my entire life.

[Puzzle Piece]

@conlt  I am sorry you went through your odeal.  Don't know why people 'act out' at the workplace.  The married gals against the unmarried, the unattractive gals against the attractive, and so on. 

The males are bad enough with their harassment (though many are married). 

Folks need to just grow up and deal with reality.  Didn't have the harassment rules when I was employed.  The unhappy glas will always be unhappy and ugly.