Among Friends

[DREAMON]

The last thing I want to do is dwell on something unpleasant from the past.

I say move on and live your life as happy as you can. As they say happiness the the best revenge.

[UpNorthGorgy]

Female bullies I mostly  experienced were mostly  in the workplaces. They are all retired now also. Don't know and they surely wouldn't recognize me or speak to me.  Since going  silver grey hair, I changed my appearance.

I never was in the  work world clique just like High School. I did have more popularity in college and generally prefered the company of men. I hung  out with my boyfriend and his buddies. I have few close friends. I like women but often prefer to talk and listen to men. 

[jlkz]

This is not necessarily bullying but general holding folks back from progressing in the corporate world.  I had a boss who refused to raise me two pay grades to the equivalent salary of DH.  I had just received my Master's degree and worked off shift with great results raising the recognition for my team.

When I offered to forego an opportunity to compete on the male program if I got the raise, I was told that I could not handle the simple step up.  I took the opportunity and succeeded with flying colors and ended up in middle mgmt. where there were very few women.  

When I received this promotion and sat in my new office a few years later, this former boss had been demoted and every time I exited my office, there he was at his desk.

I made sure that I treated him with respect and a smile every time we met.  He was a product of his generation: may be he progressed.

[jlkz]

This is not necessarily bullying but general holding folks back from progressing in the corporate world.  I had a boss who refused to raise me two pay grades to the equivalent salary of DH.  I had just received my Master's degree and worked off shift with great results raising the recognition for my team.

When I offered to forego an opportunity to compete on the male program if I got the raise, I was told that I could not handle the simple step up.  I took the opportunity and succeeded with flying colors and ended up in middle mgmt. where there were very few women.  

When I received this promotion and sat in my new office a few years later, this former boss had been demoted and every time I exited my office, there he was at his desk.

I made sure that I treated him with respect and a sincere smile every time we met.  He was a product of his generation: may be he progressed.

[redwrite]

First-I feel that girl bullies today are far more horrid than when I was in school. But, re: the worst bully when I was in school...A few years ago, she posted on FB that she was going through some difficult changes in her life. She apologized in general to everyone that she had ever been mean to, and bullied in school. She said she was sincerely sorry for all of the hurt, pain, and tears that she had caused people. I had not heard from her in 30 years, nor have I heard from her since that FB post. I do not even know how her post got into my FB feed! Maybe she tried to send it to all classmates? And why the post? Bad medical diagnosis? Sincere change of heart? I have never quite known what to think of it!

[mrshckynut]

@Puzzle Piece    if I am thinking of my past I focus on the pleasant parts of it, not the contentious times or people. I really have no interest in karma, or not, or if it's just life.

mrshckynut 

[brandiwine]

Yesterday a couple stole a motorcycle, then were hit by a hit & run driver.  The man on the stolen motorcycle died and his female passenger was seriously injured.  Don't want to see anyone die, but it definitely made me think of instant karma.  Hopefully, they find the driver of the hit & run vehicle.

[Mary Bailey]

Karma is interesting.

I don't think it happens where I want it to, or where I think it should.

So if something bad happens to us, is that Karma for something bad that we did?  

[Cakers3]

Karma is not a reward or a punishment.

We see this topic from time to time and it's always a focus on someone who was mean or stole or whatever.

Look at most of the responses. Underneath is most is a feeling of righteousness. If you believe someone was punished, or believe someone should have been, then you yourself have planted the negative seeds for something to happen to you.

A house burning down did not happen because the person was a mean girl.
It was in the path of fires that left many others without homes.

A pretty girl who was not nice didn't suffer "time not being good to her"..
One of the worst misinterpretations of karma to date.

People do not suffer terrible deaths because they were nasty.
The kindest, most compassionate people suffer terrible deaths too

If you plant the seeds of positivity in your own minds, then the world will benefit.
If you look for something wrong to happen to someone who was mean or judge the person got what she or he deserves then your thoughts alone are seeds of negativity which will not benefit the world

Dwelling on past hurt only hurts you. Your task is not to look for the negative as payback because it isn't looking for karma. It's simply hoping, whether you admit it or not, that whoever wronged you is hurting.

We do not know everything about everyone.
The why, the how, the result is only your own to tend to; perhaps the perception of reality was not quite reality. Think about it.