Among Friends

[nagrom]

Trying to process life right now and the difficult year this has been.   First went on vacation normally meeting my good friend.  This year a month before vacation her daughter notified me she has gioblastoma and has only two months to live.   Went on vacation and met up other friends and let them know.  We all meet every year so we are shocked at this news. Then my son and daughter in law came on my dime.   Last two days of vacation she told my son she wanted a divorce.   I knew about it but could not say anything.   They were to come and stay in our home for the next week.  The day I returned home, my friend died.    

It was difficult for my son and his wife to stay with us.  She was silent or nasty.......My hubby did not know as I believe he wouldn't be very nice to her. My son and wife left for home. They live in Europe.   He had to sign divorce papers etc to get the legalities going.   He moved back home in May.   Had to get drivers license etc and get a job.  He had been out of the state's for 12 years.

Meantime back issues are acting up and trying to work it out...But getting worse.  Prescribed meds and order MRI ....still dealing with this.  Did pt.  No help there.

Then heard another friend died of a heart attack.  Complete shock as she was 59 and skinny but a smoker.  Really difficulty processing this as it has been a little over a week.

Got another call..Another friend has reoccurring brain cancer.  Just reached my limits.  My niece just had surgery a few weeks ago with kidney cancer.   Hubby going for check up this week.  He is in remission for bladder cancer.   

I feel like I'm shut down.   Want to go somewhere and cry but can't.

[granny me]

As the saying goes when it rains it pours. I have empathy for you because I too have had almost two years of gut punches. I think you just learn to get up every day and get through it the best you can and take one event at a time. I try to not look back at it all once because it is so overwhelming.

[nagrom]

Thank you for listening to me.   It is hard to deal with.  I am holding my breath for hubbys check up.   He says he is having symptoms too.   Don't think I'll be able to sleep.   Back issues add to my list.

I will say to myself keep my head high and chug along.........I think I can. 

[jlkz]

@nagrom

your heart must be breaking with all the heavy burdens you are carrying.  I am so sorry you are going through this painful chapter.  The friends who have passed are at peace now and would want you remember them and good times you all have shared.

Your son is doing what he needs to do in order to get on with life.  Be there for him.

Every day do something for you: an ice cream cone, extra half hour of sleep, whatever lifts the pain momentarily.  Make sure to walk or get a few minutes of exercise in daily.

This too shall pass...the next chapter has no where to go but up !!!!!

[Lilysmom]

@nagrom, some times it just seems to much doesn't it?  Like every time you turn around there is more serious bad news.  Try to look after your self.  Stay in the present.  

I went through 18 months where I had three terminal diagnoses and lost three siblings.  I did a lot of the caregiving, treatment appointments and wound up in emergency with a scare of my own.  I hope you have some help nagrom.  You are in my prayers.  God bless.  LM

[151949]

Boy oh boy - I've heard of having a bad run but this is really exceptionally. I hope next year is a great improvement OP.

We lost a friend to a glioblastoma 13 years ago - he was 59. He wasn't diagnosed until be passed out in his BR - he died 3 days later. 

[nagrom]

Jlkz,  Thank you for your kind words

[nagrom]

Lilysmom,  Thank you.

Ten years ago was another rough time.   Lost mom May 16, lost dad August 16, and lost my aunt December 16.    My sister and have birthdays on the 16th as does my cousin.   Every time a 16 came around we held our breath.

[cotton4me]

Oh my, you’ve really had a time of it.  My heart goes out to you.  So sorry for your losses and all that you’ve endured and are enduring.  (((Hugs))) and prayers for you.  May healing and comfort surround you. 

[RetRN]

You are truly dealing with some tragic losses. Hopefully, your husband can receive treatment if that is indicated and your back issues will resolve. Some peoples lives are definitely easier that others. Sending good thoughts your way. I'm hoping you have someone you can reach out to for support at this difficult time.