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[Maureen1234]

I give gifts because it makes me happy to celebrate the bride (or the mom-to-be). I am happy with an in-person acknowledgment. I don't expect a thank you card. Life is too short to let that bother me.

[CelticCrafter]

To me it doesn't matter how it's acknowledged, text, email or phone call.

When I had to continually ask my brothers kids if they received their gifts and the gifts I sent for their kids, I stopped.  

Next on the list will be my husbands nieces kids.  They're young, second grade and kindergarten but along with birthday and Christmas gifts they get a card for every single holiday through the year with a couple of dollars in it and they are never acknowledged.  It will be birthday cards only this year. 

We can blame it on rising costs and a fixed income.

[homedecor1]

I guess @Luvsmyfam I'm old school too!

I just wrote and sent out 40+ thank you notes to all who came (and those who gifted me) to my 70th bday party.  I bought packs of notes at Dollar Tree.

I guess my family and friends are too I still get notes and special occassion cards in the mail!

And I do appreciate it😊

I'm also very happy to get text or email -- it's the thought that counts as others have pointed out.

[Cakers3]

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@Desertdi wrote:

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@50Mickey wrote:

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@Desertdi wrote:

I only expect an acknowledgement if the gift is $500 or more...

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@Desertdi      You must be kidding right?

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@50Mickey     Most  young  couples today pay for their own wedding.   Do you know how much that amounts to per guest?    You need to cover that cost, PLUS a gift...

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@Desertdi  I've seen more threads regarding requests for guests to give X amount of $ to pay for the reception and/or honeymoon/and or new home.

One thread even detailed how guests were asked to set up and take down chairs and tables.

Nobody needs to cover a reception. People need to know how to budget their wedding appropriately. 

Really - how many young couples do you actually know who pay for their own weddings?

[jubilant]

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@bikerbabe wrote:
If someone thanks me in person at a shower, I see no reason to send something in writing. An email is fine if I mailed a package. I’ve never been able to figure out who comes up with these stupid “etiquette” rules.

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Sorry that you find etiquette "stupid", many of us do not.

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@bikerbabe I know etiquette and manners are not the same thing exactly... but in my family saying "thank you" also came under the heading of "good manners". A thank

you in any form is better than none, imo.

[Desertdi]

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@Cakers3 wrote:

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@Desertdi wrote:

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@50Mickey wrote:

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@Desertdi wrote:

I only expect an acknowledgement if the gift is $500 or more...

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@Desertdi      You must be kidding right?

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@50Mickey     Most  young  couples today pay for their own wedding.   Do you know how much that amounts to per guest?    You need to cover that cost, PLUS a gift...

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@Desertdi  I've seen more threads regarding requests for guests to give X amount of $ to pay for the reception and/or honeymoon/and or new home.

One thread even detailed how guests were asked to set up and take down chairs and tables.

Nobody needs to cover a reception. People need to know how to budget their wedding appropriately. 

Really - how many young couples do you actually know who pay for their own weddings?

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@Cakers3      I meant that THE PARENTS no longer foot the bill (unless they are "socialites")

[LavernLuvsShoes]

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@CelticCrafter wrote:

To me it doesn't matter how it's acknowledged, text, email or phone call...

I agree! - At least it's some form of acknowledgement and gratitude.

I've lowered my expectations, and it makes it easier on all concerned (LOL)

[teganslaw]

In many cases etiquette has gone out of style. I received thank you noted from both my nephews and their brides when they got married, so my sister had taught them manners. 

I wouldn't send a wedding gift or attend the wedding if I never received a thank you from the shower. I don't care if it's a note, email or text. At least acknowledge the gift. If not, don't expect anything else from me. Also, the guest should not be expected to "cover the cost" of a reception or wedding. Who thought that up--a wedding planner or someone who is greedy?

[pdlinda]

@Desertdi   

I got quite a CHUCKLE at your comment! 

I'm not sure WHY but guess it's because what used to be a significant gift that warranted a THANK YOU might have been $100 but in today's world it's jumped to $500!!

[Krimpette]

@pdlinda  Not in my world!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!