HARD TO FIGURE COUSIN!

Newgate · ‎09-05-2014

Today in the mail I received from my cousin about 40 family pictures dating way back to the 1940's! She is the daughter of my mothers brother, my uncle! My uncle passed away a few years ago and in October of this year his wife passed away! There was a note with the photos saying "I thought you might like these photos of your family"! Some of these photos were of her dad, her mother, her sibling and other cousins with us at various occasions and they were not copies that she made for me they are the originals! I found this very disturbing! Guess she doesn't consider us family now that her parents are gone!! We always had a good relationship with them and I adored my uncle!! What would make a person do something so cold?

Moonchilde · ‎05-23-2010

I think you took her kind gesture in a way completely opposite to how she meant it - how sad (for her).

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DoneTryin · ‎03-09-2010

Hmmmm, I don't interpret it that way at all. Of course I don't know either of you, so I can only speak for how something like that would be interpreted in my own family.

When the 2nd parent dies, the children are left to disperse & dispose of whatever that person had. Sorting photos & then sending them to the relatives we think would most like to have them would be exactly how we would handle it. Certainly more considerate to take the time & effort to do that than to just say "what the h***" & throw them away.

qbetzforreal · ‎08-28-2010

I think it was a nice gesture to share the family pictures with you. Not cold.

Mominohio · ‎08-08-2010

@Newgate

I'm sorry but I don't understand what is wrong here. It sounds like she was being nice and sharing. I have done the same thing, sending pictures from various photo albums I inherited. I believe in making sure that anyone who wants pictures or copies in our family get them, and often I send originals when there are many of one event or person.

Maybe I missed something in your OP.

wismiss · ‎03-10-2010

I believe your cousin had good intentions and maybe just didn't explain it thoroughly to your understanding. I am doing the same thing. My Mom passed away and has a lot of pictures of cousins--graduation, wedding, etc. There is only two nephews in our family and neither one is interested in the pictures. (I asked them.) I am going to work on sorting the pictures and asking the person if they would like them. I have talked to one cousin about this and she has one graduation picture but two children, so she is looking forward to receiving one so each of her children will have one.

When so many pictures are just tossed when someone passes, please be thankful that your cousin did not do that but chose to pass them on.

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CatLoverDogsToo · ‎03-10-2010

I don't think she meant anything hurtful. She may have many copies of the pictures, as back in the day, there were negatives and people often had doubles and triples made. Also, she may have scanned the originals onto a CD. You won't know unless you ask. Prior good relationship probably indicates that she thought she was doing something nice.

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Big Sister · ‎05-15-2010

Don't look for a problem that may not be there at all. I would accept them graciously and send her a thank you note. You are lucky to have the photos.

Pook · ‎03-20-2010

Back before instant pictures and digital cameras many often took several shots to make sure at least one turned out and this is probably why she sent you them. Don't understand why you find it disturbing.